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Killing myself with worry
I had anal sex with a male off the internet late night while I was drunk. He said he was negative but Im worried because he is openly gay(more partners), I am not. We had unprotected sex(i bottomed).He is 30 im 21. Days later I had symptoms of chlamydia(except for drip). I got tested and they said I was negative for chlamydia. I still have no idea what it was.
Then after almost 3 horrible months of extreme anxiety I tested for HIV(rapid test) and came back negative. I have a couple questions. And please only someone certified answer :) I find myself constantly(everyday all day) fearing I was still in the window period due to google and some posts on medhelp.(6 months window periods)
Is it possible to have sex with someone HIV positive and it not be passed on?
Can I trust my negative result?
Thank you so much.
Then after almost 3 horrible months of extreme anxiety I tested for HIV(rapid test) and came back negative. I have a couple questions. And please only someone certified answer :) I find myself constantly(everyday all day) fearing I was still in the window period due to google and some posts on medhelp.(6 months window periods)
Is it possible to have sex with someone HIV positive and it not be passed on?
Can I trust my negative result?
Thank you so much.
I agree with Lizzie Lou, but let me add a bit more.
First, let me say that i'm a retired social worker who worked specifically in AIDS and then in substance abuse (so a lot of our patients had AIDS), so I have a LITTLE bit of experience. I've also done individual counseling.
Steve, buddy: do yourself a BIG favor. Get yourself some counseling. In two areas. One in the area of your sexuality - you appear to have BIG conflicts. If the only way you can have the sexy that you enjoy is to get drunk and then hook up on line, you have a problem, but you can lick it. (pun intended)
The second is your difficulty in accepting your HIV negative status. That's called "survivor guilt", and common. (I suffer from it myself, to some extent.) It may make you feel better if go for a COMPLETE check up six month and a year after the event with a gay doctor or at a gay clinic. And tell them the ENTIRE story.
Also, do yourself a very big favor: take a pledge not to have sex if you've had more than one drink. Too many accidents happen when you go home with a man (or take home a man) when you're bombed. Not the least of which is you can find yourself the victim of a crime when you've set up the date on the Internet and let the guy know you've been drinking.
If you want to write to me directly, we can talk more personally about those, unless you would like to help others with similar conflicts in this are by continuing with a public discussion. Sometimes by 'airing your dirty laundry". you not only help others - you help yourself by increasing your self esteem.
First, let me say that i'm a retired social worker who worked specifically in AIDS and then in substance abuse (so a lot of our patients had AIDS), so I have a LITTLE bit of experience. I've also done individual counseling.
Steve, buddy: do yourself a BIG favor. Get yourself some counseling. In two areas. One in the area of your sexuality - you appear to have BIG conflicts. If the only way you can have the sexy that you enjoy is to get drunk and then hook up on line, you have a problem, but you can lick it. (pun intended)
The second is your difficulty in accepting your HIV negative status. That's called "survivor guilt", and common. (I suffer from it myself, to some extent.) It may make you feel better if go for a COMPLETE check up six month and a year after the event with a gay doctor or at a gay clinic. And tell them the ENTIRE story.
Also, do yourself a very big favor: take a pledge not to have sex if you've had more than one drink. Too many accidents happen when you go home with a man (or take home a man) when you're bombed. Not the least of which is you can find yourself the victim of a crime when you've set up the date on the Internet and let the guy know you've been drinking.
If you want to write to me directly, we can talk more personally about those, unless you would like to help others with similar conflicts in this are by continuing with a public discussion. Sometimes by 'airing your dirty laundry". you not only help others - you help yourself by increasing your self esteem.
having sex with someone who is hiv + does not mean automatic infection.
trust your result...you lucked out.
USE CONDOMS ! ! ! ! sex lasts a few minutes...HIV LASTS A LIFETIME ! ! ! ! ! ! !
trust your result...you lucked out.
USE CONDOMS ! ! ! ! sex lasts a few minutes...HIV LASTS A LIFETIME ! ! ! ! ! ! !
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