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Pregnant and extremely worried about possible exposure to HIV...
ok, so here goes... I'm really hoping Nurse Girl, Lizzie, Teak, or Vance can give me some advice because I am now 7 moths pregnant and the stress is just overwhelming.
During a brief separation from my husband I made a couple drunken mistakes. In July I had unprotected sex with a man of unknown status. At the time I felt I had no reason to be concerned with his HIV status because I'd always see him around at work and he seemed like a nice respectful guy, now I realize how stupid that was of me.In August I had unprotected sex again with a friend of mine who regularly gets tested for HIV because he's in the fire department. He even tested negative two months after we were together. A month after the incident with the firefighter I got back with my husband and got pregnant. In November (12 weeks after the firefighter) I tested negative for HIV and my husband tested negative in December also. He also regularly gets tested because he's in the Army, but I know you can't count on somebody elses status as your own. I live in Texas where it's mandatory to test in the last trimester so I have another test coming up, I'm just so terrified that it may come back positive.
When I found out my results in November I was relieved and felt no reason to question them. Now I'm here 5 months later worried like crazy. I read that 12 weeks is conclusive, but I don't know if that apply's to pregnant women, and I know this sounds far fetched, but what if the lab messed up or mixed up my results and this negative test I had at 12 weeks is false? It's scary, but possible..
I think a lot of this stress and anxiety is due to guilt, but some advice and reasurrance from people who know what they are talking about would be nice. I have a wonderful husband, a four year old and a baby on the way. I'm just so scared that my stupid decisions may have put all of us in danger. Someone please help.. I've been so stressed out about this for the past three weeks. it's to the point where I just sit in the shower and cry, because I'm so regretful and worried that my stupid mistakes may harm my family.
During a brief separation from my husband I made a couple drunken mistakes. In July I had unprotected sex with a man of unknown status. At the time I felt I had no reason to be concerned with his HIV status because I'd always see him around at work and he seemed like a nice respectful guy, now I realize how stupid that was of me.In August I had unprotected sex again with a friend of mine who regularly gets tested for HIV because he's in the fire department. He even tested negative two months after we were together. A month after the incident with the firefighter I got back with my husband and got pregnant. In November (12 weeks after the firefighter) I tested negative for HIV and my husband tested negative in December also. He also regularly gets tested because he's in the Army, but I know you can't count on somebody elses status as your own. I live in Texas where it's mandatory to test in the last trimester so I have another test coming up, I'm just so terrified that it may come back positive.
When I found out my results in November I was relieved and felt no reason to question them. Now I'm here 5 months later worried like crazy. I read that 12 weeks is conclusive, but I don't know if that apply's to pregnant women, and I know this sounds far fetched, but what if the lab messed up or mixed up my results and this negative test I had at 12 weeks is false? It's scary, but possible..
I think a lot of this stress and anxiety is due to guilt, but some advice and reasurrance from people who know what they are talking about would be nice. I have a wonderful husband, a four year old and a baby on the way. I'm just so scared that my stupid decisions may have put all of us in danger. Someone please help.. I've been so stressed out about this for the past three weeks. it's to the point where I just sit in the shower and cry, because I'm so regretful and worried that my stupid mistakes may harm my family.
Thank you guys. I really appreciate it. This is by far the best forum I've come across regarding HIV Prevention. All the other websites I looked in to just raised my stress level making me question my test results and my sanity, lol. Thanks again Rain Lover and Teak.
It's the guilt that is making you feel this way because you have a conclusive test result.You don't have HIV.Relax and focus on your pregnancy.
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