Repeated exposure.

[worryingwort]

Hypathetical (hopefully)

If someone is in a monogomouse relationship, and he or she repeatedly exposes him/herself to unprotected sex with their partner of unknown status and was to get an HIV test at 3 months after their sexual relationship was started; What are the odds that they would have cought it by then?
Would this be enough time to assume that a negative result after 3 months is accurate? Or would you have to be getting tests done over and over every 3 months?

[mechfab]

Why is she against using protection? There is a chance of pregancy also. Have you both talked in legnth of your sexual history? Do both of you want to be in a committed relationship? You can tell her that you really care and want her to get tested with you, tell her you are concerned for both of you. I think fear is her reason for not testing and remind her that if she want children in the future it is best to get tested now before that happens. Be very supportive. If she refuse this request of yours chapeau is right it should raise a red flag about the relationship with her. Hope this helps.

[troggs]

If she's not into practicing safe sex with you then that's a big red flag Worrying-it's also not an excuse for you to allow her to lead you around by the balls frankly my friend. It's up to you if you want to chance exposure by leaving yourself open to whatever...You need to be the man here and do a test on yourself, insist on her testing as well and make it an ultimatum if you have to, there no reason she should be in control of your health and well being unless let her man. I personally would not take this off of any woman is was being intimate with, there are plenty of women walking this earth worryingwart. She can agree or disagree, but if you go along for the ride it's on you bro'....sorry man...

[worryingwort]

SHe is very against us using protection and would be suspiciouse of me cheating on her if i suggested it. Also she had a test that would at least eliminate the last 7 guys from infecting her, but there were 2 encounters still in the window date for her test (2 months). She is convinced this is enough evidence, so would not get another test. I am not entirely convinced however.

[troggs]

The best advice stated that you and your partner should both get tested-also, if you are uncertain about your partner judgement, history, ect start using protection regularly.

[worryingwort]

Wel will deff be remaining committed. I just worry abou the sexual past of the partner ( 9 unprotected sex encounters)   Would this change the advice?

[diver58]

Mutually committed monogamous relationship between a male and a female from a low risk segment (excluding IDU's, bisexuals, CSW's) of society is already a low risk activity. It is very unlikely to contract HIV that way, however if the status and history is not known, unprotected sex could be risky.

Since you have done your test after 3 months mark therefore now on, there is absolutely no risk if you both continue unprotected, provided none of you exposes himself / herself elsewhere, and remain committed.

[mechfab]

One time test at three months would do it but it would be best if both partners go and get tested to be sure.