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I am married 5 yrs, I made a horrendous mistake and had sex with a transwoman escort,
No anal sex happened, she tried to penetrate me, but couldn't get it up. She gave me blowjob, during which she said , she might have cut her lower lip, with her teeth,and she stopped, this has scared me..she also performed annalingus on me.
I also gave her a blow job, I may have scraped my tongue in the morning, during tongue cleaning. I am sure she had precum, and she didn't ejaculate at all.
Ami to take pep, how risky was i
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No risk whatsoever. You don't need PEP.

"I am married 5 yrs, I made a horrendous mistake and had sex with a transwoman escort"

Please don't confuse HIV scare for your regrets, this forum is evident to numerous people with the exact same issue. None of them had a risk, accepting your self and deciding the right path forward, is the key to getting rid of your concerns.

Perhaps a counselor can help you further, since this is an HIV prevention forum, you must know that there was absolutely no risk associated as oral sex is not a risk, even with presence of blood there is no risk that can be associated and you don't need to test for this event.
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This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. This HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk. Because of all the research statistics, doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
Taking PEP would be a big mistake since you had zero risk for hiv but would have risk for Pep side effects.
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No risk=no disease=no hiv.
Your encounter was a non-event so you need to forget about it and move on.
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