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A little over four months ago I met a guy that kept on asking me a lot of sexual questions. I ended up telling him that I was a virgin. This guy really wanted to do stuff with me. I was not going to have sex with him because I had no condom, and I did not know him. I told him that I could look at and touch his penis. He let me touch his penis, and I let him touch me. He would not stop asking me if he could put it in, or if I would suck it. I repeatedly told him that I did not want to have sex with him because neither of us had a condom. He asked me if he could rub it on my butt and he told he would not put it in. I let him rub it on me, and then he put it in even though I told him not to. I started tearing up and saying no over and over again. He did it for about two minutes. His penis was lightly going in, and then he did one big thrust. I yelled no, and started crying more which made him stop. About a month ago my tongue started looking white. I have had some eye pain, headaches, and colds. My body has also been sore at times. I am pregnant with my boyfriend's baby, and I am worried about both my boyfriend and my baby. I have to get full blood tests this month on the sixteenth, and I am so scared and worried. I do not know what I will do if I have it. I have been looking up symptoms, videos, and questions on here for a few weeks now. I am having trouble sleeping. I feel so depressed. A doctor told me that I did not have thrush (I am having a hard time believing her).
Only sex risk with him would be unprotected anal or vaginal penetration with a penis. Your epic story seems to indicate that happened, - if so then take any test now for a conclusive result because your symptoms prove nothing so no one here pays attention to them and you shouldn't either. Everyone posts that their tongue is white, but I have never seen anyone here with ARS so it seems no one knew what color their tongue was before they started over-examining their body.
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I know everyone here says that symptoms do not matter, but I am terrified. I will get tested in fifteen days at my appointment.
if you look for symptoms, you will always find them. i assume this encounter was before you got pregnant with your boyfriends baby, if not, you should think about whats important to you. im not judging as I've cheated on my spouse, and im not even sure you did, just offering the advice just in case for the relationships sake, and the baby. it also sounds like you got raped if he proceeded to have sex even though you said no. that is completely unacceptable and if it were the case you should report it to the authorities. thats not acceptable for anyone. your whole story seems odd to me though, so I'm not really understanding the timeline of the different events that took place. either way, you've been penetrated, you should test.
if you're worried, why wait? test now at your local clinic or anylabtest now is more expensive at $50 instead of $4 at my clinic, but I've got results next day.
It happened before I got with my boyfriend. All I wanted to do was forget about it. I just want to have my baby and spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend. I know I should not wait, but I am just so scared. I really think I might end my life if I have it. I just do not know what to do. I am scared that my family will not love me anymore.
how does knowning later make you less scared? wouldn't you think if you testee negative in a couple days from now you could relax and move on from it? regardless, family is family, they will be there no matter what. if you actually have thoughts you'd rather end your life instead of being one of the many people that live happy lives with it, you need to seek mental help. plus, it's not even confirmed you do. I'd say your exposure would be low risk, but a risk nonetheless.
I got a phone call yesterday telling me that all of my blood tests are fine. Would a test after five months be conclusive? Could I have a false negative? I just wish I knew why I have so much wrong with me right now. I was worried when they called my mother because they said that they would call me if anything was wrong, but all they said that was wrong was that I had a UTI. I asked my mother multiple times if she was sure they test for it when you are pregnant, and she said yes to me multiple times.
Any test is conclusive after 3 months. You need to move on from HIV now, so you can get get back to your happy life now.
1. I have no idea why you are connecting UTI with HIV, but this is an HIV forum and you don't have HIV.
2. Talk to the lab about why they called your mother, because no one here works there and we aren't going to get into a guessing game like you are doing.
3. You might consider therapy too if you can't accept the results, because you have wasted a lot of your life worrying instead of testing to resolve the worry, so it would be a pity if you continue to waste time in fear like you presently are.
1. I have no idea why you are connecting UTI with HIV, but this is an HIV forum and you don't have HIV.
2. Talk to the lab about why they called your mother, because no one here works there and we aren't going to get into a guessing game like you are doing.
3. You might consider therapy too if you can't accept the results, because you have wasted a lot of your life worrying instead of testing to resolve the worry, so it would be a pity if you continue to waste time in fear like you presently are.
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