take your meds - if you have permanent AF I would guess you're on a beta blocker, and warfarin or aspirin ? Xarelto is a newer warfarin alternative but not if you have had valve problems. My wife has had AF for about 10 years and takes these meds and just lives with it.
As itdood says, just do the best you can and don't let it control your life. Don't worry about a single episode of VT, it probably won't happen again.
I think your question is "what is the best treament for a-fib"? from what I've learned and observed there is no single best pathway to deal with it. There are different options, as there are different causes for a-fib. Finding the best one is sometimes trial and error.