my gf is breaking with me because I have hep b

[JLZhang]

i was born with hep b and i told my gf about it when we first dated, and she has been fine with it. But she recently told her parents about it, and they were really mad about it. they said there is no way that they would agree for us to be together.

i was going to propose to her next month and now she said she couldn't take the pressure from her parents no more...and she wanted to end the relationship!

what should i do? i feel like killing myself....

[Fr0sty]

I have a question, I have a similar situation with JLZhang..asian, born with the virus, my DNA quant is high (higher than the test range). The doctor advises me to keep monitoring for activity since once I start medicine it'll be for a lifetime.

My biggest concern is at what stage of the relationship should I tell my gf...I really do not know..

[cajim]

Knowledge is power.  First, arm yourself with as much as possible; then be candid and let the "he" understand that with positive HBsAB HBV is harmless.  You are just as good as a girl without HBV.

[Sumei000]

Thank you for the reply...I am not worried how long I can live. I had gone through a lot in life. I lost two person in a year (my husband and mom).  My doctor mentioned that he will send me for the test. I am still waiting for the date of appointment.

May be I am lucky to have my understanding husband before. I just never though of having Hep B will make people avoid me for having relationship with me till now. The impact from having rejection from this guy is really hard. I totally cannot imagine how much Hep B will effect my life in future relationship.

I just want to be a normal person and to live in formal live.

Please teach me and tell me how to make them understand me. Where do I start to make them understand me?

[cajim]

You are probably ok and you will live a long time.

You are right:  keep yourself on top of the HBV, be regularly monitored and do what is best for you.

Best.

[Sumei000]

I forgot to tell you that my mom live till 61. She passed in January 09. She did not smoke and she also a non drinker. Anyway, she die of liver cancer cos she didn't not do the regular check up. She doesn't like to see doctor. That is her biggest problem!

Now I am 39, I live like normal people and I smoke too. I don't know how long I can live on but all this in the god hand.

[Sumei000]

I had the same experience like you. I told the man that I date on the first day. He said nothing. I met his family too. I even explained to him that my dad, he is a blood donor all his life. In fact my mom, she is a Hep B carrier and i am a carrier too. I also told him that my brother married to a non carrier and the baby tested, he is non Hep B carrier. On the second date, he called off the relationship with me due to the problem I had. I was very sad even thought is only second date. He was very nice to me. He told me he has the same feeling like me how I felt for him. We even had sex with condom on the second date. He gave me so much hope and make me feel so good for accepting me. Now,I felt like he putting a knife into my heart.

The feeling that I had now is ....I got no hope of getting anyone into my life. Who want to have a girlfriend with hep B? I felt like killing myself too. I am lost! After reading all those commend above, I still don't feel good. The percentage of getting someone or for someone who can accept me like how my dad accept my mom...chances are...may be less then 1%. This is so unfair to me and to the people who are Hep B carrier. I never experience anything like someone rejected me cos of Hep B.

Tell me how to make the guys understand me with my situation? In order to accept me!

I am really lost! I am very up sad...and disappointed.