whats it all mean?

[ronsdaughtervicky82]

hi all im just wondering if anyone can shed some light on my dads condition at this present moment hes been a alcaholic proberly bad for the last 13 years 10 years ago he was rushed in and the doctors told him them give it up or you will die last january he was diagnosed with cirrosis of the liver and the doctor once again said you touch anoth drink and i really dnt no how long you will be here so he quit for 3 monthes them soon made up for it so now were here again and obviously every time he goes in he gets worse hes drained every 3 weeks at the moment but over the last 3 weeks he seems to be gettin worse since january 2010 he has lost 41/2 stone hes a shadow of what he was and no weights 10 stone he looks anorexic hes just bone threw and threw sad to see really bad hes got billirubin but hes gone from a yellow colour to black his skin is a deathly colour does anyone no why this is? and why the loss of so much weight? and the last week hes mental state has changed to hes openin draws and wardrobes lookin for somethin he nos what but when you ask him he doesant no he had a shave at 2am in the mornin 2 days ago and cut his face hes got the flapping of the hands when he talks not sure to what it means but its mentioned alot im just wondering if anyone nos of the stage my dad is at as i feel i just want to no my heart goes out to my mom who is an amazing woman amazing strengh i look at her and think i dnt no how she carrys on sometimes im so grateful she is how she is  could anyone shed some light on whats going on woth my dads condition he might be an alcaholic but hes a person and deservs the best thanks for reading my post kind regards vicky xxxxxxxx

[ronsdaughtervicky82]

thank-you all for takin time to share what you no i thought his liver had become decompensated threw why ive read along the way to try get help and answers for my mom i just wish i new what the stages was and how much more hes going to go down hill terrible addiction and a terrible illness ill never blame my dad hes a good man and a good dad but he just couldnt see what it would do to him in the end i have 5 brothers nd sisters in total and each and everyone of us will be there in turn there no bitter feelings towards him really only he wnt be here to watch all his granchildren grow up due to the bottle thats slowly takin him away from from us i no hr regrets it but its to late for him now xxxxx

[Trinity4]

What copyman said is correct and I'm very sorry.  He is going through end stage liver disease and his liver has become decompensated which means it no longer performs the functions required by the liver which is primarily filtering toxins out of the body.

Be there for him because soon he may not recognize who you are so try to spend as much quality time with him as possible.  You may want to talk with your mom to make sure all his affairs are in order.

Heartfelt thoughts to you and your family,
Trinity

[copyman]

Sorry you are going through this. Your dad is in end stage liver disease. everything you say your dad is doing is what happens when the liver is at the end. The sad thing is that they will not offer a transplant to an alcoholic. The patient had to be sober for 6-12 months before even being considered.

Just make him as comfortable as possible until the end.

[Diane12855]

There aren't any doctors here, but what you say sounds like his liver has about had all it can take. His color changes and mental state sounds like his liver isn't able to do its job any more. Why isn't he in the hospital? That is such a load for your mom to carry. I'm sorry I can't say anything to encourage you... Just love him and be there for your parents all you can.