Is this herpes?

[GodFirst2011]

Hello i am new here to medhelp and had a question regarding herpes.

about 2 weeks ago i had a one night stand with a girl with whom i do know is for a better word, sexually loose. I did not penetrate her vagina ( penis would not get hard) but i rubbed my protected penis against her vagina. she did perform protected semi protected oral on me. i did not ejaculate and left. on the drive home i felt a slight burning on the right side of my penis and soreness in my left arm. the next day i felt very sick. this all may be mental but i had sharp breathes after thinking i may have contracted herpes. i also did not sleep and was very anxious for most of the week.

A week later on the 12th i experienced a fever of about 100 degrees and a throbbing head ache, swollen lymph nodes in throat and right side of groin, sore lower back and pain in legs. the next day I experience some nausea and could not eat. i went to the doctor in which he said could be a stomach flu since i could not eat and had no sores..

fast forward to today may 17th i have no sores on my penis and still have a headache and sore left leg and lower back. my lymph nodes in neck are still stuffy feeling and i feel lethargic. i wanted to know would these be signs of genital herpes since i do not have open sores. ( i do have small painless bumps along the underside of penis but i believe they are fordyce spots)
I am so afraid. im a 23 year old male and would be hurt if i could never date again. this was only my second ever sexual experience...

I might also add i am very overweight
i am 298 pounds and 5 foot 9 1/2.


Also i had muscle twitching all over my body. my legs would not stop shaking and i was very stressed from this ordeal. still no sores but i am very sure i may have herpes. i really hope not. im so afraid please help answer this. are these herpes symptoms and should i get a blood test. it has been 2 and a half weeks since sex with this woman and it has been hell on my mental health.

[Fleetwood20]

This was essentially a zero risk of herpes transmission.

The lack of sores and related herpetic symptoms is pretty conclusive you were not infected from the episode. No need for testing.

[GodFirst2011]

I forgot to mention that some of her saliva may have gotten on my penis since she gave me oral..i was not erect and the condom was not covering my whole flaccid penis..also i find it ironic to have All of the symptoms like flu like and leg and stomach pains but no sores or anything..also i have pins and needles in my legs..is it possible to get herpes just by rubbing your penis next to a vagina..or can you just get herpes on your pubic area without it being on your penis...Im extremely sorry for being annoying

also can herpes blisters look exactly like fordyce bumps or are they always different looking...im very nervous and have a SPLITTING headache. also is stomach pain always a sign..please im in a really bad place in my mind. im having all the symptoms but no sores..i went to the doctor and she laughed at me for being to paranoid about this..please respond

[GodFirst2011]

Thanks for answering my questions. i was wondering. somewhere i heard that if you had genital herpes the lymph nodes in your neck would become inflammed and you would have a white tongue. the info may have been wrong. also i want to add that how long would it take for the sores to appear after i have had all the symptoms or would the sores appear with the symptoms. i say this because i came down with a fever in which ive never had a fever before in my life and it was ironic that i had it 2 weeks after oral semi vaginal contact..i did not penetrate..thank you soooo much fleetwood20 for being patient with us medhelp users lol..

also would you say body twitch would be a sign..anyways im going to get a blood test done just to be sure but since being here and contacting you guys im pretty convinced that i may not even have it..this has been a crazy ordeal

[Fleetwood20]

I think you are getting carried away with statements like never having had a fever. They happen on a regular basis for many people as they fight off viruses and bacteria.

Another way of thinking about this is that the only true sign of being concerned about a herpes infection is lesions (even then they can be caused by other ailments). All other symptoms should considered downstream associated symptoms for a primary infection. You cannot 'upstream' any of them to even remotely and viably diagnose or indicate a herpes infection given the huge likelihood they are caused by something else.