So, I am with a partner who was diagnosed with hsv2 (an ex partner told him after the fact), but has never had an outbreak, and due to some minor (but I guess, major enough) fooling around between us, I now have oral hsv2 within a couple of weeks of us beginning contact. Ok, so its happened and I'm not going to spend a lot of time being upset about it, but I would like to understand some very specific things as I move forward and you good people seem to have a wealth of knowledge about things that I am having a hard time finding doing standard research.
1) Since this is my initial outbreak, how long will I shed ie: when can I kiss my kids again (after sores have healed)?
2) Since I have oral HSV2, and the partner who I got it from has never had an outbreak, can I still shed the virus back to him and cause him to have an OB when not I'm not having an OB? In other words, can I cause him to have genital or oral OB from my oral HSV shedding, even though we have the same strain?
3) Do I subject myself to an OB again if I give oral sex to him (presumably when he is not having an OB)? ie: new sores, new places etc due to his shedding (which is how I got it in the first place)
4) Can I get HSV2 in the genital region from him now that Ive already gotten in in the oral region from him? (again, presumably when he is not having an OB, as my understanding is that you can even infect yourself in a new region when having an OB) so my question is can I get it in the genital area when he is just shedding but not active?
5) How common is it for those with Oral HSV2 to shed and spread to others ie: kids, friends after the initial OB and while no symptoms are present?
6) Not withstanding manual transmission of infected fluid from one place on the body to another, will I ever spontaneously get sores in new places in subsequent OB's that I did not get them in during the first OB?
You guys are the best. I appreciate your time in answering any or all of these questions as you are saving me a lot of time and headache.
JA
PS: I believe this to be HSV2 because I already have HSV1 (orally) since I was a kid and know exactly what that looks and feel like and this was NOTHING like that and, my partner has been tested since his last partner and is HSV1 negative. This was extremely painful, with a lot of pain, tingling, numbness is the spot for about 12 hours before a huge blister appeared that eventually began to scab but weeped fluid for two weeks before starting to go away. Huge, gross, painful beyond anything that I have every had before with my other HSV1 and previous to this partner I had been in a monogamous marriage for over 16 years.