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GHSV 2 positive female, sex questions
Hi everyone, I am recently diagnosed with IGG blood test, score of 5.0, HSV 1 neg. I believe I contracted this 27 years ago from my husband. Decided to test due to someone new in my life. I have been with my husband for 27 years. I have done much research and am still a little confused. Needless to say I was extremely angry, depressed, and felt so alone. My new man has been very supportive and after much research I now know that i am not alone and have a much better outlook on life! I know that there is a chance of transmission. I am now taking 1 gram of Valtrex daily. In 27 years I have had 4 ob and maybe 5 times of prodrome symptoms which I have taken Lysine to help. My questions: 1 If my partner is HSV 1, 2 negative, with Valtrex and condoms how minimal is the chance of transmission? 2 Can he safely give me oral sex if there are no symptoms, I read that the chance of GHSV2 doesn't like to go oral? 3 If there are no symptoms, can we still have foreplay with fingers? I appreciate any information given.
Hi wantsomuchmoreinlife,
Thats deep,Same kind of thing happened to me and I lost my husband because I was stupid. One of us must of had HVS before we got married not sure if it was him of Me. I was sick about the whole thing for years.Any ways 6 years ago I got involved with another man who said he was tested and disease free men will do anything to get what they want . he gave me HIV AIDS and I gave it to my husband . Not telling you what to do but here are some questions you should ask yourself.
Do you love your husband and does he love you ?
How do you know he gave it to you, and how does he feel living with HVS ?
And if you are sleeping with your partner and your husband is that fair to either of them ?
and have you talked to God about this ? I sure wish I did
Good luck with this
Beth
Thats deep,Same kind of thing happened to me and I lost my husband because I was stupid. One of us must of had HVS before we got married not sure if it was him of Me. I was sick about the whole thing for years.Any ways 6 years ago I got involved with another man who said he was tested and disease free men will do anything to get what they want . he gave me HIV AIDS and I gave it to my husband . Not telling you what to do but here are some questions you should ask yourself.
Do you love your husband and does he love you ?
How do you know he gave it to you, and how does he feel living with HVS ?
And if you are sleeping with your partner and your husband is that fair to either of them ?
and have you talked to God about this ? I sure wish I did
Good luck with this
Beth
Yes I am still married but not sure for how long. He is aware that I am not happy, for many reasons.. No, I have not discussed this with my husband. I'm still very angry about the whole thing. I continue to have hope for many things. I still feel alone and outcasted alot.In the meantime, I keep researching, not the internet because I believe some of the info is scary and not correct, but on these sights where I have joined for support. My new friend and I still are not together, but that is ok so far. All good things come in time!!
Dear wantsomuchmoreinlife,
Are you still married and have you ever talked to your husband about how you
Are you still married and have you ever talked to your husband about how you
Thank you so much for posting this. I had very similar questions and the responses to your post really helped me.
Yes, 3 months was 15.00. I don't know why the Dr gave me 1 gram daily. He didn't want to give it to me at all. I talked him into it since it suppresses shedding.
have sex - lots of it and enjoy it :) really, it is that simple!! when you have symptoms in the genital area, avoid sexual contact until gone.
the daily suppressive therapy you are taking will keep his risk minimal. it really is the best thing you can do to protect him.
fyi lysine doesn't really do anything for genital herpes. when you feel like an ob might be starting, up your valtrex to either 500mg twice a day for 3 days or just take 1 gram twice a day for 3 days ( easier to do than splitting a pill ). you really would be just fine on the 500mg daily dose too. you aren't having frequent enough recurrences to make it worth being on the 1gm daily pill. is your insurance making it affordable?
the daily suppressive therapy you are taking will keep his risk minimal. it really is the best thing you can do to protect him.
fyi lysine doesn't really do anything for genital herpes. when you feel like an ob might be starting, up your valtrex to either 500mg twice a day for 3 days or just take 1 gram twice a day for 3 days ( easier to do than splitting a pill ). you really would be just fine on the 500mg daily dose too. you aren't having frequent enough recurrences to make it worth being on the 1gm daily pill. is your insurance making it affordable?
Thank you for your comments... Any advice you can give is appreciated. You can message me if there are "specific" things or how to do certain things. I am just so afraid.
Thanks for the comments, and yes he has. That's why I have so many questions. He is negative and I want to learn all I can to prevent transmitting. I know nothing is 100%...
Welcome to the forum! I'm glad you've found someone in your life that is being supportive of your situation and is helping you along.
To answer your first question, if you take all preventative measures, such as antiviral medication, condoms, and avoidance of sexual activity during symptoms, your chances of passing hsv2 to your man are incredibly low. If you're looking for a concrete number, it's about 2%. It is more difficult for hsv2 to transmit from woman to man than from man to woman. For reference, you have an 8% chance of preventing pregnancy by only using the pill.
To your second question, it's not "safe" for him to give you oral sex, however, the odds are very low that you would transmit hsv2 to him orally through oral sex. It's something that I would not worry about.
Lastly, fingering is a no risk activity, no need to worry about it.
Hope this helps. Here's a website I referenced for information. It also has some really nicely written articles about hsv2.
http://loveinthetimeofherpes.blogspot.ca/
To answer your first question, if you take all preventative measures, such as antiviral medication, condoms, and avoidance of sexual activity during symptoms, your chances of passing hsv2 to your man are incredibly low. If you're looking for a concrete number, it's about 2%. It is more difficult for hsv2 to transmit from woman to man than from man to woman. For reference, you have an 8% chance of preventing pregnancy by only using the pill.
To your second question, it's not "safe" for him to give you oral sex, however, the odds are very low that you would transmit hsv2 to him orally through oral sex. It's something that I would not worry about.
Lastly, fingering is a no risk activity, no need to worry about it.
Hope this helps. Here's a website I referenced for information. It also has some really nicely written articles about hsv2.
http://loveinthetimeofherpes.blogspot.ca/
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