Could my child have gotten herpes at birth?

[Stressed1978]

Hi I have herpes since 2009 and I am male and my wife and myself gave birth to a son in 2014 we informers our family doctor about the herpes issue and and was talkin valtrex as well.I have never tested for hsv but the doctor looked at my did visual check up . I also got problem in my eyes after the infection for almost long time. Now my question is my son who is 8 years old now was born healthy but one and half year complain about itchiness on penis I showed family doctor again he said it’s fibmosis and gave him betaderm but it did. Help I asked the doctor did my son ahoy herpes from mother he said no it’s just . And now what further stresses me h has started gettin red eye and itchy eye i again showed to the family doctor they gave antibiotic drop but my son still complain about itchy eyes.I am reallly worried my wife gave vaginal birth.c

[auntiejessi]

Okay, you need to let go of your son having herpes from birth. If he had it, he would have been very sick, and you wouldn't have missed it. The doctors wouldn't have missed it. Your son would have been in the NICU and on special medications for it.

They did a vaginal birth because your wife didn't have an outbreak. Millions and millions of women with herpes give birth every year to healthy babies. Your wife is one of them. You need to let that go. It's not fair to your wife or your son.

Babies born with herpes don't just have it on their genitals or in their eyes - it's a full body infection.

The only way your son will get herpes from your wife now is if she has inappropriate sexual contact with him, if she even has herpes. To get it from you, he'd have to have the same inappropriate sexual contact. Let it go.

Herpes in the eye can happen, but it's not common and if you think you have it, you need to see an opthamologist. More likely, you have allergies or something that is causing red, watery eyes.

Your son - did he have phimosis? That's when the foreskin can't be pulled back. Betaderm is a common treatment for phimosis. Herpes has nothing to do with phimosis.

Does your wife even have herpes? Is this all just a big fear of yours? You don't know for sure if you do - do you get outbreaks? Can you get your doctor to do a type specific IgG blood test? It's harder to get them in Canada, but maybe your doctor will do it to help ease your mind.

Your son is fine. If you need counseling to let this go, get it.

[Stressed1978]

Thank you auntie Jesse for your reply it’s just fibmosis flowed by eye infection in my son created panic in me. Thanks for explaining it   I am feeling more  informed  now that if the baby get herpes at birth they would show symptoms that time only and the baby would be really sick. I would try to let go off my mind  it’s  just I have gone through herpes it’s just scares me. And I asked my wife she said  she get outbreaks   Not very often but do not get tested for it but I think it would be obvious she got from me . Because I have since 2009. Thanks a lot for clearing  my mind. I would not think too much about my son eye infection. It’s  been more then 20 days now he has infection some doctor say it’s bacterial infection some i the hospital. Say it’s a dry eye so I was quiet of concerned.hopefully he gets better soon  thanks again
Ed now

[auntiejessi]

If your son had herpes from birth, he would have it forever, and he would have it systemically, not just genitally. He would indeed be very ill at birth.

Try to remember that billions of people with herpes have given birth to healthy babies. Yours is one of them. :)

[Stressed1978]

Thanks again for your  assurance it’s. Just  his itchiness in penis. When he was 6 years old on and off which the doctor told me it’s fibmosis. He gave betaderm    Which was lasting for almost on and off for year and now at 8year old he  got eye infection from almost 20 days like red eye and he said ithicy eye papa really gave me sleepless. Nights. I had herpes since 2009 doctor here in canada did a visual. Test and gave me valtrex I also got irritation in my eyes ever since I faced  all. This so I got really panicked. No one properly explain here in canada. I don’t even remember if my family doctor would have mentioned to the hospital at the. Time of delivery  re. Herpes infection as I had it since 2009 and we had baby in 2014 .I don’t remember do they actually look for outbreak. Regardless at the delivery time. As my family doctor just told me that they would see  if there  is a outbreak my wife never took any antiviral. That’s. Why very hard to understand. Thanks auntie Jesse I feel better disco with u

[auntiejessi]

I can't find anything for "fibmosis". Do you mean phimosis? That's when the foreskin doesn't retract all the way. Betaderm is a common treatment for that.

Your son doesn't have herpes. He would have sores over his body, and be vrey, very ill.

I'm sorry this has caused you so much worry, but if you can't let it go, you need to seek some professional help. I know the last thing we want to do is harm our kids, but you didn't, and you won't.

[Sillymistake87]

HSV can be passed on but it is very very very rare. Itching in itself its not a good symptoms of herpes so be led by your doctors thinking. Something like allergies or hey fever is much more likely

[Stressed1978]

Thanks for your reply I am here in  canada I discussed with  2 family physicians they said no  it’s not that. But his complain with penis and now the eye  really scared me
Too much can’t sleep very depressed because of this  don’t knw  they could have done c section for the baby why did they even do vaginal birth  as I read so many Post the doctors can see any outbreak durin or before delivery and decide accordingly but I’d this possible to show symptoms almost 6 years after birth