Don't know if I have it or not... so what can I do?

[elijah353]

Hey guys,

I have a problem. Here where I live it's very hard to get the herpes tests where they find if you're carrying the type 1 or 2 virus, and the only way of determining whether you have herpes overall is pretty much from sores that a doctor examines.

Now the thing is, my father has oral herpes and has had it for as long as I can remember, and I'm guessing it's more likely that it's type 1 (of course I can't be certain). I'm young and have kissed about 4 different girls in my life, and had one 2 year relationship during which I had sexual contact. This girl I dated had got cold sores since she was born, so I'm guessing that means she was at least orally carrying HSV1. Now we kissed a lot and I'm guessing even some times when she had cold sores. She did some times briefly lick my penis, testicles and the area surrounding it (didn't have any cold sores), so there's of course that risk of me having it in my genitals.

Anyways, it's been over a half a year since we broke up and I haven't got any cold sores. Since the virus is transmitted very easily I'm guessing I probably am carrying it, but I can't really know can I? And the small kisses on my penis and around that area, not actual oral sex though, how probably could they have given me the virus down there?

There's something going on between me and this new girl, and I'm guessing we might kiss soon. I don't want to give her any disease, and since I can't really test to find out whether I'm carrying herpes nor have I had any sores, what can I do? Should I tell her there's a chance? And I've always lubricated my penis with my own saliva before masturbating so I could have transmitted it to my genitals... so how about that risk, should I talk about that too if we ever get near to having sex?

[elijah353]

Of course, sorry about that. This was a bit different so that's why I made a new post, I'll go reply in the original one!

[gracefromHHP]

let's keep this all in your original post. thanks!