Hi and sorry your test came out positive for Herpes. Did they say if it was type 1 or 2? The good news is almost everyone has type 1 oral Herpes and so if you had oral sex you probably got it that way and so with Herpes type 1 it usually only breaks out 1-2 times. Maybe 3. It is really hard not to get Herpes type 1 because you can even get it with saliva and that touching your genitals. Most people don't know they have Herpes. But those that do usually get a painful out break. That doesn't mean the ones that don't know don't have it. They don't either break out and/or don't feel the blisters. You can also get your blood tested but since most adults have oral Herpes you would probably be positive for that in the blood for at least the IgG antibody. But you can test for IgM antibody that would tell you if you got a recent or new outbreak. I doubt it. You can have Herpes as a child (oral) from a kiss or whatever, and may not know you have it for years. I would talk to your doctor about this to have them discuss what you might want to do. For me I had oral Herpes out breaks (cold sores) and never got genital and was married for 20 years and then suddenly got a genital out break. He didn't cheat. my doctor is sure too. I tested positive only for IgG (the one you have for years) negative for the recent one. So it lives in the nerve cells. It can pop up any time. It is awful. I now get it often when I go to get dental work. It hurts a lot. So now I use topical acyclovir for my cold sores and I only got one genital out break in years. I am going to start pre-medicating with acyclovir for the dental issues though. There is a Herpes Forum here too if you are interested.
regards,
mkh9
Deja531,
I was thinking that if it wasn't painful it might not be herpes. I have had a doctor misdiagnose me. Although I did get the outbreak later. Herpes is small clusters of blisters not one big bump. I hope the test was wrong. Some of those quick tests are not that sensitive. They would have to do a PCR (molecular DNA) test on the sore to really tell. Because if they just check the blood the only way to know is if your IgM antibody is positive. Otherwise it could be a past oral infection which about 90% of us have whether we break out or not. In fact this new BF could have it and just not have break outs. So, don't be down on yourself. I hope he is supportive. If he isn't then he wouldn't stay with you anyway. But I would wait for a more specific test.
mkh9