I removed your other 2 posts. please read our read before posting post on the forum.
certainly your bf needs tested to know what his own status is. You can't make educated decisions about what precautions to take in the relationship until you know who has what. Also you want to know his hsv2 status too. Have you been tested for hsv2 ever yourself?
At this point, your cold sore isn't likely to be still actively shedding virus since it's a recurrence.
do you ever take herpes antivirals to help speed healing of cold sores?
grace
I guess it's ideal to wait for the cold sore to heal 100% before engaging in any act that might transmit the virus.
If your boyfriend does have HSV1, he won't experience an outbreak just because your cold sore "touched him". Outbreaks are caused by other mechanisms. If he does not have HSV1, you might transmit it to him, yes.
If he's 40, chances are he has HSV1. It's a very common virus.