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Please help!! I had oral sex with a transexual I used a condom during the oral sex then switched to anal I used lub but didn't change condoms. Anal went on for about  2min or so then i stopped I realized it wasn't my cup of tea thing. The condom look like it didn't break I saw blood on the condom so rushed and took the condom off. I washed up with anti bactiura soap and water and dryed off. 2 days later I felt itching and burning sensation around genitals and it burned when I peed. I went and saw my urologist and did blood work everything can back negative except for HSV 1 he told me it was to soon to show HSV 2 or HIV i know i had HSV1 already .He said it could been a reaction do to strees and guilt  of the encounter I'm on valtrex now it's been 2 1/2 weeks and in still feeling flu like symptoms. I feel weak and headache, feeling of ill no fever no chills. My question is

1. During oral sex could  there have been holes in the condom before going to anal sex?

2. When cleaning myself  with soap and water could it have went inside my urethra?

I'm not sure of its my outbreak that causing my symptoms or if its something else. I don't have any bumps or liaisons or anything my lower back hurts every now and then and I think my lymph node in my neck might be swollen. I went and did an oral hiv test on day 18 that came back negative but I know that's too soon. Can any help please I'm really stressed out
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washing up after sex doesn't reduce std risk at all. Sounds more like perhaps you gave yourself a chemical urethritis by getting soap inside your urethra.

did your provider do any urine testing when you were seen?

protected oral sex is as safe as sex as it gets. It's no risk for std's.

Protected anal sex is a low risk for herpes, hpv and syphilis.  

really no reason for your provider to have put you on valtrex either. You will need to wait at least 3 months after your encounter to seek out hsv2 igg blood testing if you are concerned about herpes from this encounter.

grace
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I've been up all night it's 730am in California Sunday morning we usually would go to church together but I no longer have her in my life. I should've fully dedicated myself to god along time ago but now it's too late. I get paid this Wednesday Im thinking about buying a hand gun. I'm scared... I don't have anything to live for I don't have kids or anything I have nothing to lose.
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What makes having this std is feeling like you're the only one that has it.. I'm living with roommates no family around for support I don't want tell anyone its embarrassing and I know it won't make me feel any better.. All these thoughts are running through my head I don't know what to do.. I just want my life back I want to be myself again.. I'm never going to be happy I can't live with this constant reminder... I just afraid overdosing wont work. I thought about buying a gun at the pawnshop I don't have any felonies I'm sure ill be able to buy one and then it'll be quick.
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I'm scared that I might do it because I know in my heart that I won't be able to live like this knowing I can pass this to the people who I love in my life. The symptoms have horrible I wish this on no one they last for over a month feeling sick fatigue painful urination fevers and the list goes on.. I would've rather been shot then to have this std. Some times I wish something did happen to me so I wouldn't have to take my own life
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I thought about heaven  and hell and how the bible says you'll go to hell if you kill yourself I hope that's not true because I'm a really good person that just made a mistake. I just want to start my life over and have a second chance  
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I'm afraid of being alone I had the perfect girlfriend that left me I'm very depressed right now I don't want to call any hotline I don't think talking to someone will help me.. They only thing that would help is a cure for this std. I'm messed up big time and now God making me pay for my mistake. I'm afraid if overdosing on my medication because it might just put me in the hospital with kidney fialur and whole list of other things failing or it might work. I'm not strong enough to deal with this.. It's just knowing how I contracted and knowing it could've been prevented. I can't live me life with this constant reminder on how I messed up my life.
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