Thanks so much for taking the time to help . I think this is actually going away or at least feels better for about a day , about once a week. It seems strange that any other condition would behave like that. I am so afraid to get tested and keep telling myself this will just go away and never come back and I can go back to my wonderful life that is never going to b the same if I infected my husband. He will never forgive me and I will never forgive myself. If I do ever get the courage to test which one do you suggest, knowing that if I am infected it has been for at least 17 years. ( I am positive my husband never cheated on me and I haven't had sex with anyone but him since I met him 17 years ago). I keep reading about all the tests but it makes my head spin and I don't really want to think about it, I just want someone to tell me yes or no, I don't want a bunch of numbers I won't know how to interpret. Thanks again fleet you really are a sweetheart.
Two months with no change suggests causes other than herpes. Antivirals would not be recommended until you have a firm diagnosis. And no if it goes away you'd bender really know whether the medication was the cause hence that's not a diagnosis either.