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Would this work to prevent herpes transmission?
Planning of having sex with a lady with genital herpes. My plan.
1.I would slightly soap my genital, penis and scrotum and all the way around up to my belly button and between and out of my thigh.
2. Than I would put on an extra large condom that also cover my scrotum, an use a rubber ring around penis and scrotum to keep the condom in place. ( already practice this)
3.I would put on my underwear exposing my condom cover genitals thru the front opening
4.After cleaning her genitalia, with help of sex toy she will manage to dilate her vagina, so my penetration becomes easy.
5 That way achieving complete penetration and protecting myself from exposure.
6, I realize is not a 100% proof, but I think is the best I can do. Would welcome any input
1.I would slightly soap my genital, penis and scrotum and all the way around up to my belly button and between and out of my thigh.
2. Than I would put on an extra large condom that also cover my scrotum, an use a rubber ring around penis and scrotum to keep the condom in place. ( already practice this)
3.I would put on my underwear exposing my condom cover genitals thru the front opening
4.After cleaning her genitalia, with help of sex toy she will manage to dilate her vagina, so my penetration becomes easy.
5 That way achieving complete penetration and protecting myself from exposure.
6, I realize is not a 100% proof, but I think is the best I can do. Would welcome any input
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This sounds like you are putting your fears ahead of everything, including your partner's comfort. For your partner, this sounds like a terrible sexual encounter.
From a technical view, the condom will help. The soap might or might now - probably not substantially, if at all.
STDs don't go through clothing, so wearing underwear will help with the skin to skin part.
Dilating her vagina - the vagina is elastic, so to speak. It stretches. You don't need to do this. Use some lube and it will ease the way as much as a sex toy would. Lube also helps prevent condom breakage.
Your partners deserve respect from you. If you proposed this idea to me, I'd just leave. I'm not some walking, talking herpes infection. If you can't handle a very small risk, you shouldn't have sex with someone who has herpes.
It's okay if you can't handle the risk, but don't leave your partners feeling terrible because you can't.
From a technical view, the condom will help. The soap might or might now - probably not substantially, if at all.
STDs don't go through clothing, so wearing underwear will help with the skin to skin part.
Dilating her vagina - the vagina is elastic, so to speak. It stretches. You don't need to do this. Use some lube and it will ease the way as much as a sex toy would. Lube also helps prevent condom breakage.
Your partners deserve respect from you. If you proposed this idea to me, I'd just leave. I'm not some walking, talking herpes infection. If you can't handle a very small risk, you shouldn't have sex with someone who has herpes.
It's okay if you can't handle the risk, but don't leave your partners feeling terrible because you can't.
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Well, got a lot of input. Thank you guys.. I'll be sure to share all this comments with her. I guess by now u all realize this is all new to me. She have provided me with a lot of information
and I try to learn as much I can. But some times the information isn't the same all the time, like how protective are condoms. But a condom is better than none. But the scrotum is out in the air getting beat, no protection and that is one for possible access to herpes. We have been intimate where we can pleasure ourselves and each other in a safe way. As it now we are friends
with mutual attraction, so we don't know what the future holds. She mention about felling terrible is something happens to me. We got an open dialog and talk about everything.
We talked about the next step, and later on I told her my idea. She looked puzzled and chuckle but as we kept talking about it, and she was asking me questions...she said, "well this could be the worst crazy idea but is kind of new and daring and possibly kinky fun.
Who knows how this going to unfold, she could laugh at me, or we get to realize is just plain crazy, and then we just cuddle have a drink and talk about what's next
and I try to learn as much I can. But some times the information isn't the same all the time, like how protective are condoms. But a condom is better than none. But the scrotum is out in the air getting beat, no protection and that is one for possible access to herpes. We have been intimate where we can pleasure ourselves and each other in a safe way. As it now we are friends
with mutual attraction, so we don't know what the future holds. She mention about felling terrible is something happens to me. We got an open dialog and talk about everything.
We talked about the next step, and later on I told her my idea. She looked puzzled and chuckle but as we kept talking about it, and she was asking me questions...she said, "well this could be the worst crazy idea but is kind of new and daring and possibly kinky fun.
Who knows how this going to unfold, she could laugh at me, or we get to realize is just plain crazy, and then we just cuddle have a drink and talk about what's next
The scrotum has thicker skin than the penis, so it's usually fine if the skin is intact.
We do know how much protection condoms offer. When men use condoms with every single intercourse, transmission is reduced by 96% to an uninfected female. Condoms used by uninfected men while having sex with infected women reduce the risk of transmission by 30-50%. (https://westoverheights.com/herpes/the-updated-herpes-handbook/)
If you are in a long term, monogamous relationship with her, have sex 2-3x a week, and avoiding sex during outbreaks:
You have a 4% chance of getting hsv2 a year. Yes, per YEAR.
If she takes daily antivirals OR condoms are used every time - it's a 2% chance.
If BOTH antivirals AND condoms are used, it's a 1% chance.
(Note - this is for female to male transmission only.)
It's really not as dramatic as you're making it. No one wants herpes, of course, but it's not something you need full body armor for. Your scrotum isn't just out there to take a beating or anything.
We do know how much protection condoms offer. When men use condoms with every single intercourse, transmission is reduced by 96% to an uninfected female. Condoms used by uninfected men while having sex with infected women reduce the risk of transmission by 30-50%. (https://westoverheights.com/herpes/the-updated-herpes-handbook/)
If you are in a long term, monogamous relationship with her, have sex 2-3x a week, and avoiding sex during outbreaks:
You have a 4% chance of getting hsv2 a year. Yes, per YEAR.
If she takes daily antivirals OR condoms are used every time - it's a 2% chance.
If BOTH antivirals AND condoms are used, it's a 1% chance.
(Note - this is for female to male transmission only.)
It's really not as dramatic as you're making it. No one wants herpes, of course, but it's not something you need full body armor for. Your scrotum isn't just out there to take a beating or anything.
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