This is not a herpes issue.
I encourage you to get professional help. You have multiple issues going on here including drug and alcohol abuse as well as some mental health issues too. You also need to continue follow up on the urinary issues with an urologist for further work up.
grace
The first thing you need to do is stop using drugs and drinking. It sounds like you need treatment for substance abuse as well. When was the last time you saw a Dr?
Have you ever been tested for Herpes? What you describe doesn't really sound like it, but nobody on this board can tell you whether you have it for sure or not nor can we tell you what the problem really is.
I really think you need to see your healthcare provider and go over all of this with them again. It also sounds like a good time for you to sit down and talk to your parents, Good luck to you. Please stop using and get into treatment.