It sounds to me like you've desensitized yourself and nothing really satisfies you the way it used to. It is a common psychological event, my advice is simple. Don't worry on looking at porn or anything and try not to think of sex so much. The more you think on something the less sensational the outlook is. I've done the same thing to myself countless times, I get desensitized and then find more extreme things later on. It got to the point where I almost started watching snuff films. It is just that you need to find a better way to occupy your time and try a few squats and drink green tea. Should open blood flow normally again. But if you're not using it for anything aside your own hand and maybe lube. You should not worry so much. When it's time you will be ready. But far as the pre-ejaculation it is normal for some. Just stay hydrated and your pressure should build so you do not.
The thing is, I don't really look at porn often. Maybe every once in a while,(Couple times a yr.), with my wife.. I can get an erection if it's with my wife, but I only feel the sensation of arousal I guess is a better way to put it, during the day or if I am sexually frustrated because we don't have the opportunity during the day. I just can't Handel that intense feeling of arousal and not doing anything with it.. I know when we have times of when we don't make love I want to look at porn just to feel aroused, because I get depressed in the winter and anxiety, and that's when I cannot get an erection during the day or that aroused sensation even if my wife is " Doing things to arouse me, like even something I like when she does it that she doesn't do all that often, but go seriously crazy over otherwise if u know what I am saying.. But there are times when I can think about her doing that to me and watching her do it and I'll have Pre-*** not too long after and only feel a little erect, but aroused.. I can't ever know what he's feeling or when he wants to work when I'm ready.. There are times when I'm not thinking sexually and not be able to control my arousal or erection, which is embarrassing some times in public... Any more advise on communication with my penis I guess I need to work on... Thx for ur other comments too...
Hi Scooter, the last bit of you reply, sorry but got me lost, seems like your wife wrote a part of it, or is it me.
I can't ever know what he's feeling or when he wants to work when I'm ready.. There are times when I'm not thinking sexually and not be able to control my arousal or erection, which is embarrassing some times in public.
Its this last piece, or is this your penis talking.
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So we have to problems to overcome, ED being the first one, it would be best if you do an 8 week sabbatical from masturbating and any sexual relations with anyone, by doing this it will reboot and heal your body, but it just may take a bit longer this just depends how long you have been at it.
Why doing this it would be best if you cleared out all your porn sites, got rid of any porn downloads and throw away any discs, get a friend in to install a parental porn lock, they keep the pass word.
At the about week 4 you should if its working, you start getting nocturnal erections back along with morning woods.
At the end of the 8 weeks, I have two more things for you to do, these will cure your other problems.
Good Luck