The best thing to do is not to respond directly to anything he says that could potentially be delusional at the time. However if at some other point he is more stable that would more be the time to discuss these concerns in general. Speaking to a therapist with him could be of help. NAMI friends and family support groups can be of help as regards coping solutions.
i have delusions of romance sometimes when i meet a fine woman but i also believe that others can hear what im thinking too :)
I have had my own similar manic episodes where there were trust issues and stressful situations that would leave me staring at a wall, in a stunned state. Your boyfriend needs a really good friend to open up to, an objective bystander who has no hidden agenda. There might other factors influencing that persons behavior, like lack of sleep or appetite, and from your description, feeling alienated or "isolated" socially. Maybe he could try group therapy. It has helped me with similar feelings.
Thank you for everyone who gave advice.
Well, to update, he is currently seeing a therapist once a week, but now he is telling me that he can't trust the therapist, and that he thinks the therapist is recording him to use his sessions against him somehow. The therapist has not prescribed him any meds, and he is still having delusions. He tells me that he knows the difference between delusions and reality, but that is far from true.
I am learning to be more patient and calmer when he accuses me of off-the- wall crazy things, but I can't deny that it is a huge struggle to keep my cool when he's in his delusional state.
I really love him and want to help him. He is a good person at heart, but the mental illness takes over a lot. I keep telling him calmly that the therapist is there to help him not hurt him, but he thinks otherwise. What should I say or do to help him to stick with therapy?
if he were to join a group of people in therapy he might see other people struggling with the same conditions. there is a lot of camaraderie in most group settings. it takes a lot of the pressure off. good luck.
Hi, is your boyfriend currently on any meds at all? It seems like he might benefit from a low dosage. In addition to his therapist he needs to see a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist can prescribe meds if he really needs them.
I am experiencing the exact same problem and it’s destroying the relationship. I recommend you get support for yourself because it can be traumatizing. Support groups that focus on partner delusions and relationship issues may also be helpful. You are not alone.
I can’t date can’t be happy can’t be sad
I’m going through the same sort of thing with my ex. I went through it for 2 years and it caused a massive relationship breakdown. Even tho we’re not together we still speak everyday and he goes through speights of these delusions. He constantly accused me of sleeping with people even to the point that he said I was making my own rotas for work and sneaking off in hotels with various other blokes (like I’m some nymphomanic). He still expects me to show him everything now even tho we’re not together and I’m keep pandering to it only for it to be thrown back in my face and told that it’s all lies. I’m getting sick of it all now - he’s put me at so much of a low people in work are noticing because when he causes these arguments and I’m in work I can’t concentrate on anything. I’m always having to justify everything - he’s even said I’ve changed my job and I haven’t I’m still working on the same unit in the same team in the same hospital. I just don’t know if it’s worth it anymore. I love him so much. But as they say if u love someone you gotta let them go.