Anyone else feel this way? Or just me?

[slmcgaughey]

A little background. DH parents were told when he was an infant that due to some medical problems he had as an infant he would never father a child.  Fast forward to five years into our marriage and we discovered I was pregnant. To make a long story shorter, we miscarried at nine weeks and then went on to have a healthy little boy who will be one on the first of June.  We have been trying to have a little brother or sister for him for the last few months.  Last month I found out I was pregnant but my HCG wasn't rising as it should and last week I miscarried again.  We are both very upset. However, DH wants to start trying again as soon as we can and I do too, but just the thought of having sex makes me want to crawl out of my skin.  I just don't want touched.  I love my husband and want to have another baby, but I can't imagine going through it all again.  Hubby has been very understanding and says it okay if I am not ready.  I just don't know how I am ever going to get passed this.  Anyone else in this boat?

[seattlemom2plus]

Think of it this way, most women don't run out and have sex after they give birth.... our body has to go through and adjustment stage.  And yes nothing is more scary than to think omg could this happen again.  There are always a ton of "what if's" going on in our head.  Another thing I want to mention too is maybe talk to your doctor and ask him if your progesterone levels were low and if they were then maybe you can take a supplement to help increase them throughout your next pregnancy until the placenta takes over.

I don't know if this will help at all, but when we were going through our miscarriage, our whole family was affected, even our boys.  Our youngest son who was 4 at the time said to me, "They were scared and just weren't ready yet."  It helped me with realizing that for whatever reason, it wasn't the right time or the situation wasn't right at the moment, but we could try again and I am glad we did.... when we both were ready.

[jessjane]

Honestly since I have had my second miscarriage Idon't wantmy husband to touch me.  I am not turned on at all no matter what.  I want another baby but I am so scared of going through that horrible heart break again.  I also am honestly not wanting sex anymore.  I think it might be depression on my part but I'm not sure.  He wants another baby and to have sex but I am having a hard time to even pretend to be interested.  sometimes I'm like wow it's been two weeks, we had better get iton before he starts complaining.  So don't do what I do or did,  be honest with yourself and with him.  and hopefully he will understand and give you time until your ready.  Good luck!

[seattlemom2plus]

I had a miscarriage back in October and I had really mixed feelings about ever trying again, but at the same time I wanted to very badly.  When you have a miscarriage your hormones are out of whack and for me I think it literally took about a month if not more to get to feeling myself again.  Three months later we found out we were pregnant and so far so good everything has been healthy.  (knock on wood)

So give yourself time to get through the emotional part of a miscarriage.  I had a grieving stage and I was on and off with it for a bit.  The best thing you can do for yourself is take extra special care of yourself during this time so your body can heal and you can recover from the event as well.  Then everything else will fall into place.  Keep us updated!  There are so many women here in the same situation.