Boo.

[StephRox13]

Which is worse? Not being able to get pregnant (like I had for 5 yrs of ttc) or getting pregnant then losing it twice (like I have in the last 4months)?

[needhelp24121]

You are all very strong women. I've had only one miscarriage after not even really trying to get pregnant and some days I still don't know if I can make it through the emotional pain. Although DH and I weren't really trying, we were very excited for our first child. I want to be pregnant again so bad, but we are waiting at least until the 3 cycles recommended to us. I honestly don't know if I could make through another m/c. Good luck to all of you!!!!

[StephRox13]

Thank you. Means a lot to hear & bounce things off from others who have been where you've been. This cramping & bleeding is intense. UG!

[Kierajoel]

I really feel for you hun. I have a hormone deficiency which means my body does not produce the right amount of hormones to either ovulate or sustain pregnancy. However, its not impossible, The fluctuations mean that its just extremely hard to do either one or the other.
The first weeks of pregnancy will always be filled with a sense of uneasiness, and this wont change due to your current experiences.
However, you say that you have had a healthy child? then this means that it is also not impossible for you to carry to full term.
Although you are sufferng heartache at the moment and may go on  to suffer more you have to have the hope and faith that you will eventually go on to succeed.
Some women find it hard to put themselves through so much emotional heartache and it is completely down to your personality whether you feel that you can do this to yourself but have hope. The road of hope is so much smoother than the road of despair even though they usually end up at the same place xxx

[StephRox13]

But how do you not lose hope as you go thru each miscarriage? Both times I've just barely found out I was pregnant to "spontaneous abort", I just start bleeding & its over. The physical pain is intense, the heartache crushing, the guilt, sense of failure prominent. I have PCOS & obviously have trouble getting pregnant. But with my son who is now 9 I had no  problems getting pg with him nor with these last two miscarriages, no meds. So yes I guess it is a step on the right direction that I'm finally getting pg after 5 yrs of nothing but......sigh. I so admire all you ladies who keep trying, keep hoping. I hope I'm as strong as you. Kierajoel - do you know why you keep miscarrying? Have the Drs found out? Thank you for you kind words, support, & hope.

[Kierajoel]

I would be grateful that things are goin in the right direction for you.
Trying for a baby without sucess is a terrible and emotional time. I ttc for 4 years before becoming pregnant the first time. I then went on to have 5 miscarriages before becoming pregnant again and carrying to full term my beautiful baby girl. We then ttc for 4 years before becoming preganant and suffering another 6 miscarriages. I am now on my 13th pregnancy (5weeks) and hoping as I have done so many times that this will be the one thats ok.
Please stay positive, it is a hard process but for many of us there is light at the end of the tunnel and trying so hard just makes it all the more special when it does worl out xx
Good Luck and stay positive xxxx

[StephRox13]

Thank you for replying. I spent the day in the ER. My #s were low & they couldn't see anything in the ultrasound. I go back in Friday for a blood draw to check my #s again.

[megancannon]

honestly, i don't think you can really compare the two. completely different types of pain.. as you know.

i have lost 3 babies. my son died shortly after he was born, i miscarried with my second and my daughter was still born. as horrible as the pain is and was from losing them i would never wish i had just never gotten pregnant because they are my children and i cherished every minute i got with them.

both are hard things to go through. as women.. we always think motherhood won't be a hard journey. i mean, women have been having babies for so many years so you never think it will be so hard until you either can't pregnant or continually lose the babies you do conceive.

good luck to you. i hope everything works out for the best and your pain eases.