Hi
I find the hardest thing of being ill is the lost of the life you had, you grieve for that life like you do a person and that took me by surprise.
then their's the guilt you feel and as i am a mum with young girls i feel guilty alot that i cant drive them to there clubs anymore, i cant hardley come to watch them in their plays and if i do i come in a wheelchair and i hate the questions the other kids ask them!
i hate i have to have strangers in my house to do all the things i should be doing, and
i hate that my kids never have friends over and no one ask them over either.
I hate i lost friends through this, and i have lost my marriage through this illness and am a single mum i wish i could walk away like he has.
I hate that somedays all i talk about is my meds or how i am feeling, that my friends wont tell me how they are feeling cause they feel sorry for me and dont wont to put there feelings on me but i'm dying to know as i want to talk about other things things that are important to them.
I hate seeing my kids worry about me, and i hate how much responsibility they have to take on.
I hate the way people look at me in the wheelchair,and i hate that that should bother me.
i hate i cant even take my dog for a walk never mind run with her like i used too.
i hate that no body not even my closest friends know how this feels (except you guys and doni my best mate)
i hate i am alone with no family to help me.
But i love the good days, the days i get out in the wheelchair with my kids.
The days i make it to church or an old friend pops round for a cup of tea and a catch up.
I love the fact i have got a new mobilty car coming and i might get my independance back be a mother again go see my friends that will be a great day when i drive again.
I love my faith,the sun (when not to hot) my pets my kids i am still blessed.
I love the new friends i have made on here and the outsideworld because of my illness.
although i have been to the darkest place even considered suicide i came out the other side, and although i face uncertainty everyday i still try to find one thing to make me smile everyday.
I cant say i dont worry of the furtue as i do i worry, i worry this is more then fibro thats why they are retesting for MS that for 2 yrs or more they have missed something and thats why i am disabled now and this is only the start but i also have hope that they did miss something that this time they will find something and there start treatment and i wont get any worse.
everyday is different and sometimes thats good but most of the time that *****!!
I'd loved all your post and cried at some, we are a truely unique family.
sam
Hi All,
Just want to thank Heather again for this wonderful thread, and thank DVision for bumping it up for us!!
Hi!!!!!!
I was a poster on this topic! I am still in Dx'd. I really haven't pursued it much. I just had a hyterectomy on Wed. It was a partial but took my right ovary. It was done laproscopically!!! 4 little incisions!!! I had a pretty bad case of endometriosis.
I just had to take a break from neurologist. LOL. My gyno helped in taking away one more stressor in my life.
Now I can concentrate on healing, getting back to exercising, eating right and seeing how my symptoms improve or not.
My emotional state had leveled out. I have accepted the chronic illness.
Of course there are days that I lean on my fiancé. But I do good most of the time :)
Cyn
Rereading this makes me sad. So many of our faithful members posted, but have since sort of faded off the forum. Where are you, my friends?
I MISS you.
Love,
ess
With the recent discussions of how MS affects our emotions, I thought I would revive this great thread that Heather started last year.
There are a lot of new members in this forum and it would be nice to hear from all of you on this topic.
It would also be interesting to hear how those of you who posted on this thread are doing now. Some of the members who posted were in limbo at that time, but since then may have been diagnosed. Others, who were already diagnosed, have been living with MS for another year. Do you still feel the same as you did a year ago? How have your emotional responses changed? Emotionally, are you doing worse, better, or the same?
In re-reading my post, until very recently I had become much less anxious about my health than I was then; was feeling more calm and more upbeat and feeling somewhat well-adjusted to living with a chronic illness. My treatments were going well, I no longer had any anxiety about self-injection; I felt even more hopeful about all the research on MS that I have read about this past year. I still feel grateful, and my personal relationships have been strengthened since I stopped being so secretive and let people in on what was going on with my health.
However, due to recent developments, in many ways I feel I am back to square one at the moment, as I await news of my recent blood test for NMO/Devic's disease. I expect the whole cycle of grief to begin again if in fact it turns out I have been misdiagnosed. However, I do feel like I'm now stronger emotionally to deal with it, than I was when I was first faced with an MS diagnosis. I guess we'll see.
~doublevision~
Carol,
You have the strength of many, Carol. I admire you. Your strength could only come from our kind and merciful God. But I do agree with ess and let the floor get dirty. The people who are OUT of the chair should be doing the work.
Elaine