Hi Pat,
I'm not sure if we have crossed paths yet, so let me welcome you to medhelp's ms forum (if I haven't done so already).......
I took a quick look at your prior posts and it looks like you have been formally dx'd with MS - you can correct me if I am wrong.
Among many of the resources available through the MS society is information for couples dealing with MS. Both of you - not just you - are seriously affected by this disease. But only a small percentage of us will ever become "dependent" on others - we will manage to live, work, and love on our own terms.
Unfortunately the reality can sometimes be that some people can't live with the constant needs of a person dealing with life altering diseases. Then there are others who rise to the ocassion and don't think twice about other options.
I would hope that you and your wife will seek professional help now - not later- to talk through your illness and your/her needs. Your neurologist should be able to refer you to a counselor skilled in this area.
Please don't let this fester into something larger.
When you feel up to it, how about stopping through and sharing more of your story with us?
my best,
Lulu
Stress is bad for many diseases MS being one that stress is really hard on. My only advice is to try to think about what she might be going through and to give her some time. I hope everything goes well.