Classic OCD symptom is going from one irrational thought to the next. We are constantly looking for closure and even when we get it sometimes that same thought comes back. I once told my therapist that I don't have a quiet mind. There is an ever ongoing dialog going on up there! This is what we do...this is how our brains are wired. But that doesn't mean we are crazy. It does however, mean that sometimes we think things and we need outside professional help to teach us how to help ourselves. Work hard at getting to the doctor. It will make a world of difference once you start on your road to learning about this disorder and how to help yourself. Your brain is tricking you....remember I call it an obsessive mind game that we perpetrate on ourselves.
I went online and found out that I should not do what my brain tells me to do. So for example my brain wants me to confirm that I'm straight by "checking" if I'm attracted to the women. That is brain's reward. If I don't listen to my brain, then eventually it will stop asking. I tried doing it and it is kinda working. I'm afraid I won't see women the same way any more. I have the urge to keep checking it but I know it will get worse. I don't have anxiety like I use to. I am usually a calm person and never overreact about things. I'm scared in the inside but don't show it in the outside.
I just have two fears.
1. I will never see women the same way
2. I will never be attracted to them like I use to.
Without this HOCD, I dreamed about girls a lot but, now every time I try do it, HOCD kicks in again. I just want to live properly. I'm going to Phoenix in 2 weeks and don't want HOCD to ruin my experience.
What you found amounts to what I wrote in my post about the Anatomy of a Horrific thought. Once you take the fear away from the thought by giving it no credit, it goes away. You perform checking behavior and it stays. You may want to check out the book The OCD Workbook: YOur Guide to Breaking Free of OCD on Amazon. You can actually look inside the book. Also there is another one called Self-coaching by Joseph Luciani. So when you have that urge to check you self-coach yourself "No, I'm not going there, now move on!" You nip it right when the thoughts comes into your head...you don't let it linger.
Thank you
I am just scared that I will not like girls anymore. I feel less attracted to girls because of my HOCD. I want my attraction to be as strong as it was before.
Of course you are scared. But with the right help you will get better. This is not going to be your life, I promise you. But you do need to seek help either in the form of books or seeing a psychologist and/or psychiatrist if you cannot do it on your own. I suggest the doctor.
Also every time I see a guy that looks good or is dressed well I think I'm gay. I don't want to kiss them but, my brain says that I love them. Which I don't! I use to look at a guy and maybe admire them for how they look like or just not pay attention to them at all.