Hi there, I'm an 18 year old female and I have been experiencing some of the symptoms that seem to be similar to "HOCD". About a year ago, I discovered porn. I viewed straight porn first experienced little arousal and then I stumbled upon lesbian porn and experienced enough arousal to climax. At this point, I didn't really wonder whether I was a lesbian or not, I just recognized the porn as something separate from my real life where I wanted to have sex with men and relationships with men. I have had 3 relationships with men, 2 of which I have felt extremely intense feelings for the men emotionally and sexually. I have been in a relationship with a man since May of this year. I can confidently say I was completely in love with him. I had my future planned around him and was ready to commit to him for a long time. Then, two months ago I was thinking about how aroused I get by lesbian porn and lesbian thoughts and how much little I get aroused by straight porn and straight thoughts and automatically questioned, "Am I a lesbian?". Right after this, this is all I have been able to think about for almost 2 months. The feelings for my boyfriend have dropped almost completely and I do not have nearly as much desire to have sex with a man as I used to. I've pictured being with a man vs. being with a woman and I can really only see myself ever being in a committed relationship with a man. I have never been attracted to women in reality, but I now find me asking myself, "Do you find her attractive?", "Do you have the desire to get to know her?". I've been a confused wreck and it's been taking over my life. There are many days where I completely come to the conclusion that I'm straight, but then I find myself going "What if you become a lesbian in the future?" or, "What if you marry a man but then become a lesbian while you're married?". Also, after I just hangout with my girl friends, I always think "you're definitely not a lesbian", but then the next day these compulsive thoughts fill my head again! Lastly, I have not ended the relationship with my boyfriend. When I was happy with him, I was extremely happy. I'm just so afraid that this is a phase and that when the OCD vanishes, I'll miss him and regret breaking up with him. Anyways, I would appreciate any kind of advice or input as to what I should do next or as to what I am experiencing. Thanks!