Update on my Mom!

[mom2jared]

I recently heard that my mother is stage three.  Her and my father went to Johns Hopkins in Baltimore with the hopes of having the tumor removed, but the Doctors there decided to give her three rounds of Chemo before doing any type of surgery because she wasn't a good candidate right now.  The tumor is the size of a golf ball and they are hoping that the chemo shrinks the tumor and she will be in better health for the removal.  From everything I am reading, Stage 3 is pretty far advanced and I am afraid about the future prognosis.  She is keeping me in the loop but sometimes I feel like she is keeping something back from me.  I try to ask her gently what is going on, but every time I do she gets aggravated with me and feels like I am attacking her.  I want to be there for her every step of the way but it seems like she wants me to just back off.  I could really use some advice.  She is finally home, but this week she was back in the hospital because she was dehydrated and had fluid in her belly again.  This is frustrating me to no end.  Today she is feeling better because they gave her blood and IV.  However, I'm afraid this is going to be a continuous cycle of her going home and then having to go into the hosptial again because she's dehydrated.  Is this normal?

[LILLIAN577]

I feel your concern, my mom has ovca stage 3c and she had her surgery July. She has gone through 8 rounds of chemo and the ascites (fluid has been ongoing). Im so sorry your having to go through this. Pray for her and be there try to enjoy every moment with her.When she has the surgery you will know more. keep us posted.

[allmymarbles]

I understand why your mother is keeping her distance from you. She doesn't want you to be worried and she doesn't want a constant reminder of her illness. Also, she is used to taking care of you. She may not want to lose the rapport that is common between you.

[nyc lady]

This disease is very scary!!!!!  
As for having chemo before surgery, that does happen quiet often.  Drs try to shrink tumors so that they will be able to perform a more successful surgery.
Chemo isn't easy and recks havoc on the body.  The doctors and chemo nurses should be giving her tips on how things can be easier on her and how to avoid some of the horrible side effects.
Would your mom let you speak with her doctors so that you can better understand what is going?
Hugs to you and your family.
Pam