my little one lost the battle

[msacha]

To those of you who have followed my strange story... Well, yesterday I confirmed what I suspected since Monday, my little one lost his brave battle.  This pregnancy has definitely ended.  I am scheduled for a D&C (yet again), for Monday at noon.  I am truly at peace.  I was fortunate enough to see the little heart beating after everyone thought that it was dead.  I'm thankful for that.  Now it's all about healing mind and body.  We did find out plenty of useful information in this wild process.  I will be going to an immunologist.  My OB/GYN found out through some blood work that I need to further investigate some things related to my immune system that may be hurting our efforts of conceiving.  I've always thought so, but no doc would listen.  I will also see a RE, per his request.  My doc is confident that I will be able to get pregnant again, the problem for me is sustaining it.  So, maybe all the doctors can put their heads together and figure it out.  If not,  it's ok, life will go on.  I'm grateful for my blessings.  I'll keep you all posted on the findings.  Once again, I want to thank this community of wonderful women for their support.  

Marie    

[nola0805]

You have my deepest sympathies for this loss. I have been following your story and was really hoping that it would have a different ending. But it does sound like you are finally get some answers to why things have been difficult.  Immunology can be very tricky.  Make sure you have good doctors that listen to you on your team.  You may want to also consider accupuncture in the meantime - there is growing evidence that it helps with fertility and pregnancy.

Your strength and tenacity are inspiring.  We'll all be here rooting for you!!!

[melimeli]

My mom has lupus and has had it since I was 14 (i am now 36) she almost died because it was attacking her heart and they couldn't figure out what it was until she was diagnosed with lupus.  She does not have the kind that has the rash.  It is very difficult her own mother died at 52 probably from lupus (because of symtoms) but then there was no diagnosis for lupus.  My mom has it undercontrol now and has had no flare ups (knock on wood) for over 10 years.  I had the test done when I was having fertility issues in my 20's didn't show an indicator for it but I know it can affect fertility.  Good luck it is very hard to diagnose and then once you get a diagnosis it is just as hard to treat until you find the magic cocktail that is the best fit for you... prayers

[Kricket212]

I am sorry to hear about the miscarriages you had.  You mentioned that you figured out why it was happening.. Would you mind sharing with Me?

[Prayerful2528]

I am so sorry to hear of your lost. I truly can relate to your story. I had five miscarriages myself last year, and my doctor keep telling me everything was normal. (WOW)  He told me that if my husband and I continue to try we will conceive. I took it upon myself to see a specialist this year in Febraury, and after several tests we have discovered the problem that was causing the miscarriages. All my lost could have been prevented with a simple blood test and medicine. You are in my prayers and thoughts. Sometimes our trusted primary doctors just isn't enough!

Yolanda

[Ecologic]

Sorry about the loss of your baby, it must have been very hard seeing him growing so slowly!

Next time, yes take the baby aspirin if you're not allergic to aspirin, this medication can sometimes make the difference between keeping or loosing the baby!

I too have asthma and thyroid problems, my lung doctor suspected lupus but the test was negative (as well as an older test in the past), it's really hard to pinpoint which immune problems one can have.

Good luck with everything!

[cc1972]

my deep sympathies and best wishes to you. i wish the doctors help you to get more answers, and i pray that you will get your baby wishes soon.

i am so awestruck by your strength and courage through this very difficult experience. (hugs)

bless you.