Hi. Try not to check your own cervix. A. it's really hard for someone to have any accurate information about themselves, checking your own cervix and B. the cervix can get irritated. They become vascular and this can cause spotting. Your spotting after intercourse could be just the messing around with putting your fingers up there and messing with your cervix. Anyway, I am hoping you are pregnant too. Try not to test for a few more days. Stay really busy. The waiting is hard. I know. I've been through this. Sex starting at day 10 of your cycle and then every other day for the next 10 days is the best way to catch that egg. Hopefully this is your month---- keep us updated!!