does my pregnant girlfriend hate me or is it hormones?

[Raydezy]

hi. me and my fiance used to be so loving we moved in together pretty quick we done everything together and loved each other more than anything, we decided to try for a baby and looked forward to marrage and being a family, she fell pregnant and is 3 months pregnant yesterday, the last 3 months have been so hard, it seems all her love has died she wants nothing to do with me anymore she packed my bags and threw me out 5 days ago, i havent seen her for 3 days i rang her phone its turned off i ring her mams, she answers but has told me not to ring no more i havent seen her for 3 days i told her today how much this is killing me and i havent eat or slept, she told me she has been fine :( ,its as if she just turned her feelings off over night and there is nothing i can do or say to change her mind she says she doesnt want no one else and we wont split up completely i can still see her now and then but i can never move back in with her, she says its not her hormones making her like this (but i think it is as she was never like this before) she says she does love me but she cant stand to be around me i cant talk to her or she will walk out i cant kiss, cuddle her nothing, when i tell her its upsetting me she laughs in my face, she says she doesnt know why she feels like this she just feels it,she wont go nowhere with me, not even to the shop, she dumped me on valentines day and didnt care about her presents or look at her card, i have tried everything i can to make her happy but it seems she is getting angrier every day, when will this stop i want my loving caring gf back, i love her soooooooo much i know it must be hormones she cant just fall out of love with me like that we were soooooo close, its killing me has anyone pls got any advice on why she feels so angry, she seems to have no interest in the pregnancy at all, and doesnt even want people to know im dying to tell people, i know its not her and it must be something to do with her hormones or something as we both wanted this soooo much, she was never ever angry i never seen her angry once before she got pregnant, will this anger and hate wear off will she ever come back to me, we went to our 3 month scan and i really thought it would put a smile on her face, her only reaction was to say to me "im suprised its still alive", it seems everything she says to me is aimed at breaking me, and im completely broken, if it is hormones when will they settle down a little? it as if she went from being loving, affectionate and caring, to having nothing for me. It's as if all of her love for me died, and it's killing me inside,  I love this woman more than anything, and can't wait to be the father of her child, but I don't know if I can handle the hurt I feel on the inside anymore. This is breaking my heart, and I am a complete disaster, can pregnancy really be this difficult? What can I do? I am completely lost.

[smjmekg]

That could be part of her problem, the fact that she's had three miscarriages and a disabled daughter...she may be thinking it'll happen again either way.

[Raydezy]

will her hormones settle down soon she is 3 months and 5 days pregnant?

[Tasha505]

Her hormones may not settle down till after she gives birth... but she doesn't hate you!! I had the same problem with my hubby, I'm a very loving wife when I'm not pregnant, but as soon as I am pregnant I turn a little bitchy... ok really bitchy! My husband just knows now, "it's my hormones" and my best advice, just hang in there and try not to pisss her off. I'm sure she's also a little worried about her baby, since she's had such a stressful history.

[ammanda]

Hey I'm so sorry your going through this.. Pregnancy can be the most terrifying thing a woman has to go through. And Its just worse if theirs been bad things that has happened before.  For the simple fact that she wanted this baby, then I'm sure she still does, ans the first trimester is the scariest for miscarriages and now that shes out of the third trimester you can try talking to her, let her know that her changes of a miscarriage have went down by a lot now, and she can be okay.  And tell her you'll support her in getting any test done that she can for the baby.  keep being there for her. Keep telling her you love her.  Is she drinking while shes at these clubs? Cause if not, its okay to go out and have fun.  I don't like the fact that she is smoking though, How many a day do u know?  I know so many people that smoke during there pregnancy.  I am 30 weeks pregnant right now, During my first trimester, I was so afraid of something happening, I was so mean to my fiancee, but I was also very very ill from morning sickness, which can make your attitude a lot worse. Do you know if she is going through morning sickness?  I quit smoking when I found out which was really hard on me cause I smoked for 10 years before I got pregnant.  And I drank at least a couple beers everyday. So its been really hard on me.  I still don't drink but i have maybe one or two cigarettes a month.  Which isn't bad at all.  She is now in the second trimester.. Giver her some space, let her get used to the fact of being pregnant again. Let her come to you when she is ready, but still keep checking on her and doing as much as she will let you.  Even though she is really worried and upset, she loves you still, when you get pregnant with a baby by the man you love that love gets bigger and bigger, it doesn't disappear. Is the father around for the first baby? Maybe shes testing you to see if your stick with her through everything, so she knows she can trust you... Good luck and keep us informed.

[Melka76]

I am so sorry for you - reading your post has really made me think about how I am treating my current husband and how I treated my ex.  Not that we should use the excuse that we are pregnant to be complete *******... but sometimes our emotions are so out of whack we have little control over them.  When I became pregnant with my second - I turned off emotionally - I was such a loving wife and mother with my first (daughter) but for some reason I just became unhappy during my pregnancy with my son.  I needed someone to talk to  and I did not do that and things fell apart with my husband.  Since then I have remarried and I am pregnant with a little girl... and I know this can't be true but I feel - AGAIN.. I FEEL...that I felt different mentally and emotionally when I was pregnant with my son.. like I was allergic to testosterone or something.. I know it sounds silly.. but I honestly have been living the last 5 years a little sadder than I use to be.. much more cynical...a little more aggressive It has been better for the last 3 but the first 2 during and after his birth.. I was not me... but for some reason now I feel like I use to.. calmer, nicer, happier.  My thoughts are it might be some sort of chemical imbalance egged on by the pregnancy... now is not the time to dicuss it with her.. but giving her space and continuing on with your preparations for the baby might show her the light.  Worse case senerio - you are the father and have rights... legally... soon enough she will show - friends will comment that she should not be clubbing, drinking and smoking.. hopefully then she will come around... best of luck..

[Raydezy]

she doesnt have any symptoms no ms cravings or nothing just this total anger for me 24/7 :(