does my pregnant girlfriend hate me or is it hormones?

[Raydezy]

hi. me and my fiance used to be so loving we moved in together pretty quick we done everything together and loved each other more than anything, we decided to try for a baby and looked forward to marrage and being a family, she fell pregnant and is 3 months pregnant yesterday, the last 3 months have been so hard, it seems all her love has died she wants nothing to do with me anymore she packed my bags and threw me out 5 days ago, i havent seen her for 3 days i rang her phone its turned off i ring her mams, she answers but has told me not to ring no more i havent seen her for 3 days i told her today how much this is killing me and i havent eat or slept, she told me she has been fine :( ,its as if she just turned her feelings off over night and there is nothing i can do or say to change her mind she says she doesnt want no one else and we wont split up completely i can still see her now and then but i can never move back in with her, she says its not her hormones making her like this (but i think it is as she was never like this before) she says she does love me but she cant stand to be around me i cant talk to her or she will walk out i cant kiss, cuddle her nothing, when i tell her its upsetting me she laughs in my face, she says she doesnt know why she feels like this she just feels it,she wont go nowhere with me, not even to the shop, she dumped me on valentines day and didnt care about her presents or look at her card, i have tried everything i can to make her happy but it seems she is getting angrier every day, when will this stop i want my loving caring gf back, i love her soooooooo much i know it must be hormones she cant just fall out of love with me like that we were soooooo close, its killing me has anyone pls got any advice on why she feels so angry, she seems to have no interest in the pregnancy at all, and doesnt even want people to know im dying to tell people, i know its not her and it must be something to do with her hormones or something as we both wanted this soooo much, she was never ever angry i never seen her angry once before she got pregnant, will this anger and hate wear off will she ever come back to me, we went to our 3 month scan and i really thought it would put a smile on her face, her only reaction was to say to me "im suprised its still alive", it seems everything she says to me is aimed at breaking me, and im completely broken, if it is hormones when will they settle down a little? it as if she went from being loving, affectionate and caring, to having nothing for me. It's as if all of her love for me died, and it's killing me inside,  I love this woman more than anything, and can't wait to be the father of her child, but I don't know if I can handle the hurt I feel on the inside anymore. This is breaking my heart, and I am a complete disaster, can pregnancy really be this difficult? What can I do? I am completely lost.

[smjmekg]

That could be part of her problem, the fact that she's had three miscarriages and a disabled daughter...she may be thinking it'll happen again either way.

[Raydezy]

when she first fell she was so happy picking names etc now she never ever mentions it, and she stopped smoking / drinking etc but now she smokes just the same and she goes clubbing every friday night with friends :(

[Raydezy]

she has had miscarriages in the past 3 i think, she has a severly disabled daughter with her ex so she maybe worrying about that, she always tells me that she doesnt feel right in this pregnancy and doesnt want no one to know because she not ready to be the centre of attention, she says if she knew she was gonna feel like this then she never would have gotten pregnant :(

[Raydezy]

her mam just says, only us 2 can work it out :(

[smjmekg]

Don't completely ignore her, but maybe give her some space. Maybe she thought she really was ready for a baby, but she might be freaking out about it now. Just give her time and maybe she'll come around. And like cocacolapanda said...try talking to her parents, or when you have a chance to talk to her, ask her why she's suddenly had a change of heart.

[Heatherm4]

That must be devastating!! You sound so heartbroken!
I know pregnancy hormones can be crazy but it sounds to me like she's one step further. It sounds like her empathy towards others has been completely shut off and she's distancing everything that has to do with her being pregnant.
I know when I first moved in with my now husband...we did not get along for a while! It takes some getting used to. It sounds to me like you need to find out what the problem is...does she even want this baby? If she's acting like this now...how's she going to be when it's born? She needs to talk to you...not just throw you out and that's that!