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Sister Trouble (Vent)
So when I found out that I was pregnant at 4 weeks and 4 days, I was excited to tell everyone, especially my 3 sisters. My 3 sisters are nothing a like, I have Leslie that is arrogant and snobby, I have Denise that is way older and really religious, and Heather that is just nice and sweet. When I told them my sister Heather said "Looks like I am going to be an aunt again!" Denise said "Looks like I'm with Heather!" and then Leslie ignored me. I use to be really close to Leslie, then she got married to a man with a good job and started being shoved up his families a** and had nothing to do with our family. I didn't expect much from her but I didn't expect her to put me down either. I messaged her on Facebook and I asked if she had anything to say after ignoring me, she said "Having kids don't make you wise" I don't even know why she said that. Well then Markus (my husband) messaged her and said "aren't you happy for us" she said "for what?" then she told my husband that "Destiny (me) don't think about her future much less one of a childs, her father is dead and her mother (we have the same mother) is not stable" Like okay my dad is dead, yes I know that, he's been dead since I was 12. Yes my mother isn't stable, she is in a nursing home with Alzheimers. What of it? I am 20 years old, married, my husband has a job and can provide, I like 12 hours away from home, my sisters, my mom, everything. So what in the h*** is she talking about?! She has no idea how much I have actually thought about my future, she doesn't know whats going on in my head, she hasn't even been around in what 7 years!? Anyways I am now 32 weeks and 5 days, and still to this day she treats me different after hearing I was pregnant, she has nothing to say about my baby, when she does talk to me it's awkward, I just cant stand it! What is her problem? By the way she is 32.
I have two polar opposite sisters, too. One really sweet, one that can be INSANELY jealous (and is because she got her tubes tied after her 2 kids in a very unstable relationship, and then got with another man and now wants a baby with him, so needless to say she isn't the happiest for us). It sounds exactly how my sister is, she sounds pretty jealous and doesn't want you to be happy, let it go, ignore it, and be happy for yourself!!
you are pregnant woman :).. Hormonal and obviously like all other woman you want your family support.. Even i ll be disappointed if someone in my family is not happy with me being pregnant :)...
Thanks guys, I just think about it and it still don't make since to me. I know that if it were someone on her husbands family she would be jumping up and down for joy, planning baby showers, posting pictures, I know this because she has done it before. I'm not jealous but I just wonder whats so wrong with me?!
hmmm... may be she is upset for own things... as i said theres nothing you can do unless she comes straight to you... either you make her sit down and ask her what her problem is or you know wait till she comes to you... it could be possible as she had a baby at age of 18 than she probably be thinking about her past that how hard it would have been for her to handle baby.. so she probably wanted you to make something of your self and than go for a child...
nothing really adds up here ... i mean i really cant tell why she is acting this way...
nothing really adds up here ... i mean i really cant tell why she is acting this way...
I do ignore it, but it just kind of bother me that she for one would even say those things that didn't make since. I wanted her to be happy. If there was a real issue with me having a baby, trust my sister Denise would have had plenty to say, but she didn't she's happy for me and even sending my baby some things in a couple weeks. I just don't get it.
thats the first thing came into my mind as well... May be she's just upset seeing you getting your life organised.. as you said shes been stuck up since she got married so probably she didnt hope this for you.. but now seeing you getting your life together is making her uncomfortable... give her a time and completely ignore her same way she does to you... you cant make everyone happy.. and in this condition you just need to worry about your child..
Not to throw around the J word, but he could be jealous or just bitter. I have a cousin O used to be close with that I haven't spoken to since my wedding, because she went all crazy cakes on me over some silly immature crap, then back in september she seen something on my moms facebook about me having a coffee and she basically told me she hopes I miscarry for drinking a coffee??? People are just messed up, and irrational, and crazy. Do not let her opinions influence how you live. If you are happy, and you know you're going to be taking care of your child, it does not matter what anyone says. Don't strrss over it
Oh and I forgot to add, she had her first when she was 18. I am not saying thats a bad age, but I am 20 so why is she being a hypocrite?
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