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Baby shower DISASTER=(
So today was my baby shower.
needless to say im crying because of it.
It was at 10:30 at the local Vfw. i showed up along with my two friends who had helped plan it.
we waited. at 11:30 there still wasnt anyone there but us.
My friend told me to start calling people but at that point i was to upset, so she stole my phone and called for me.
Bullcrap excuse after bullcrap excuse was heard as to why each one couldnt come.... they were to busy(despiute having told me theyd be there and were looking forward to coming, every single one of them) something came up ect. ect.
we even caught two of them in a lie, they werer supposed to be out of town... then we end up actually seeing them driving in town! we even followed them to make sure it wasnt a look alike car...
well i know who my real friends are now, and when any of them asked me for anything in the future i will be bringing up how they couldnt even make a token appearance on one of the days taht was supposed to be a beautiful memory.
so hope nothing like this happens to any of you girls! its horrible!
needless to say im crying because of it.
It was at 10:30 at the local Vfw. i showed up along with my two friends who had helped plan it.
we waited. at 11:30 there still wasnt anyone there but us.
My friend told me to start calling people but at that point i was to upset, so she stole my phone and called for me.
Bullcrap excuse after bullcrap excuse was heard as to why each one couldnt come.... they were to busy(despiute having told me theyd be there and were looking forward to coming, every single one of them) something came up ect. ect.
we even caught two of them in a lie, they werer supposed to be out of town... then we end up actually seeing them driving in town! we even followed them to make sure it wasnt a look alike car...
well i know who my real friends are now, and when any of them asked me for anything in the future i will be bringing up how they couldnt even make a token appearance on one of the days taht was supposed to be a beautiful memory.
so hope nothing like this happens to any of you girls! its horrible!
Im really sorry you had such a disappointing baby shower : ( some people can be such selfish jerks! I have a feeling my baby shower will be only family because i have alot of "friends" that say there gonna do stuff with me all the time then blow it off when it comes right down to it. I hate it when people do that, talk one thing then do another. Blah!!! Screw em, they werent real friends anyways : )
That is the rudest thing i have ever heard im soooo sorry!! like the other girls said this was supposed to be about your baby and they just ruined it!! My SIL she didnt even need a shower the 2nd time her 1st one was almost 2 so she still had everything the crib carseat everything and she still threw herself a baby shower and every1 still showed up to it!! I think if all my in laws can keep their opinions to themselves then there's no reason your friends couldnt have done the same thing!! Any who im sorry again i hope you feel better!!
So, did you have family who showed up? Or did absolutely NO ONE show up? As for the reasons why...that's just stupid. I would make sure they knew that if it were THEIR baby shower, you would have been there regardless of who else was there. It's not like they had to socialize or even sit next to the other people. Heck, I've gone to a baby shower where all I had time for was to drop the gift off, tell them congrats and then leave. But they understood that I had somewhere else to be and couldn't stay. Making an appearance would have at LEAST shown a little respect.
Do any of these b!tches have babies of their own? If they do, then they should have known how you would feel because they've been there. If not, then when they DO get pregnant, paybacks are hell.
That's just rude. And you're right...some friends THEY are!
Do any of these b!tches have babies of their own? If they do, then they should have known how you would feel because they've been there. If not, then when they DO get pregnant, paybacks are hell.
That's just rude. And you're right...some friends THEY are!
I totally know what you are saying. I am going through that same stupid bs with my step mother in law. My mom is having a baby shower for me at her house and the wicked witch (SMIL) through this big fit bc she hates my mom and WONT BE AT ME SHOWER. So that in turn made my DH's dad call him and b**** him out for not sticking up for the stupid woman. So now they are fighting over something that hasnt even happened yet. Totally stupid. It was the same way when we had the wedding. It is like the stupid woman wants to ruin and make our specials days all about her. UGH!! I would love to slap her. Maybe then she would realize that she is ruining my Dhs relationship with his dad. I lost my dad a year ago. and it made me realize that time is just to short to be fighting over something so stupid. I dont know touchy subject. Good luck with your baby. Screw the ppl that cant get along. Make sure you do what makes you happy.
It just shows you that your 'friends' are still being immature and childish. Someone who is truly grown-up would have sucked up their feelings and gone to your shower ...because it's not about how *they* would feel having to be around people the don't necessarily get along with ...but it's about how *you* feel. True friends (and mature ones at that) would have realized this and gone to your baby shower regardless.
I'm glad you got to see who your real friends are ...but I'm so sorry it had to be on a day that was supposed to be happy and create a great memory! Over the past year, I got to find out who my true friends were ...thankfully it didn't happen at a planned baby shower ...but it was when I announced my first pregnancy. Only my immediate family and *one* of my friends responded to my news. I finally got a couple one line emails from two other friends ...but one girl, who has been my best friend since we were three, didn't respond at all ...not even after my m/c. That really hurt my feelings a lot!
So my advice ...forget the selfish friends who didn't want to celebrate your happy occasion!! And revel in the fact that your two close friends who hosted the party with you will be with you thru thick and thin!!
I'm glad you got to see who your real friends are ...but I'm so sorry it had to be on a day that was supposed to be happy and create a great memory! Over the past year, I got to find out who my true friends were ...thankfully it didn't happen at a planned baby shower ...but it was when I announced my first pregnancy. Only my immediate family and *one* of my friends responded to my news. I finally got a couple one line emails from two other friends ...but one girl, who has been my best friend since we were three, didn't respond at all ...not even after my m/c. That really hurt my feelings a lot!
So my advice ...forget the selfish friends who didn't want to celebrate your happy occasion!! And revel in the fact that your two close friends who hosted the party with you will be with you thru thick and thin!!
I cant believe people actually have to go through this. that makes me so angry!!! I cant imagine how you felt- im so sorry. They dont deserve friends and if karma has anything to do with it they wont before long. I dont have many friends but if I did I know I would be crying too. I only have a handful and they would never do that to me, but I have tons of family! I am out of state also though so, they would probably send their gifts. I wonder about people sometimes....and plus I love shopping for babies! jerks. well good luck shopping for baby and you are right about garage sales and resale shops! I love shopping there and for kids, some of their stuff still has tags because children grow sooo fast that none of the stuff is very used.
oh hun i'm sorry to hear that. That really *****...people can be so rude/mean.
wow...sounds like what happened to me at my wedding.......i sent out 50 invitations....and out of those 50 only 5 invites showed making it a total of 10 people at my wedding...i was so hurt that even half of my family couldn't show my aunt told me she had 2 b-day parties and a baby shower to attend but she showed up at the reception and my lil brother had to go to prom, i could understand my brothers situation but my aunt wasn't even related to anyone at the parties she went to i did have fun but it would have been nice for my family to show...and all of my friends are now family so all of my friends did show! you really figured out who your'e friends are....im sorry that you had to go through such rediculous (sp.) excuses as to why they weren't there...but soon you will be holding that baby in your arms and nothing else will matter just that baby of yours....best wishes!
Just so you know. If all of us medhelp ladies could have been there we would have came! I am sorry about your horrible day.
you know it is very possible they'll stop by after the baby is born....if they don't start trickling in one by one soon, after realizing how stupid/selfish they were being.....and everyone loves babies, unless you're a kid-a-phobic(idk if that's a word but it makes sense to ME!! haha).....well, i hope you have a good week to make up for that.....
thansk to you all, im over it today, ill just go to garage sales and totally ignore the people who had stupid excuses! i dont want to be around people who claim to care but dont! i really wish i had family in my area, they all would have come! but hey it was my frist and last baby shower, and maybe after the baby is born some people will come by in singles then? lol
aww im so sorry that happen to you none of my "friends" showed up but i have a big family so it didnt matter i had a blast and got alottt of gifts.....people suck sometimes im sorry you had a bad time
wow!!! these are adults saying these things??? doesn't sound very mature!!! again, i am so sorry this happened to you!
how retarded.....they still couldve at least stopped by, said their well wishes, and either put aside their diff's and stayed, or at least popped in.....
all my friends mostly live out of state, except 4, 2 are going with me, 1 i can't even say is a friend anymore, and the other is a guy lol.....so the rest is family(except for some old coworkers i kind of keep in touch with ).....and at my mom's house, everyone knows to 'suck it up', so to say.....esp since i've INSISTED that my "aunt" kathy be there...she's my uncles ex, but she's always been in my life, and to me she's still my "aunt".....but the rest of my family hate her(they're the kind who think wether kids are involved or not, if you're an ex, you're "trashy"-oh and now she's married to a black man).....but i've told my mom, i'll make a stand and if certain family won't be there because of her, then they weren't welcome from the get go....
all my friends mostly live out of state, except 4, 2 are going with me, 1 i can't even say is a friend anymore, and the other is a guy lol.....so the rest is family(except for some old coworkers i kind of keep in touch with ).....and at my mom's house, everyone knows to 'suck it up', so to say.....esp since i've INSISTED that my "aunt" kathy be there...she's my uncles ex, but she's always been in my life, and to me she's still my "aunt".....but the rest of my family hate her(they're the kind who think wether kids are involved or not, if you're an ex, you're "trashy"-oh and now she's married to a black man).....but i've told my mom, i'll make a stand and if certain family won't be there because of her, then they weren't welcome from the get go....
I'm so sorry! Those are really pathetic excuses because the shower wasn't about the other attendees, it was about your baby. *HUGS*
i got mad and called the people,,,, its kind of funny really. everyone who didnt show up didnt come, because they had problems with soemoen else that was going to be there!
thats what i get for being friends with so many different types of people, but honestly couldnt they just suck it up for my sake?
it was funny though hearing them all basicly say the same thing just inserting different names!
example.....
"i dont think i could handle to be aroudn sasha"
"i dont think i could be in the same room as lisa!"
"me and lisa and tierney dont get along and i dont want to be near them!"
thats how ALL my phone calls went!@
thats what i get for being friends with so many different types of people, but honestly couldnt they just suck it up for my sake?
it was funny though hearing them all basicly say the same thing just inserting different names!
example.....
"i dont think i could handle to be aroudn sasha"
"i dont think i could be in the same room as lisa!"
"me and lisa and tierney dont get along and i dont want to be near them!"
thats how ALL my phone calls went!@
Im sorry this happen to you...i was actually telling hubby today that i was scared that no one will have one for me or if i had one for myself that no one will show up. Well at least you know who your real friends are.
I'm sorry!! God, some people can be complete jerk *ffs seriously. at least you do know who your true friends are... I have this suspicion I'll be finding out who my friends are myself. I've only had a couple who RSVP'd so far and I handed out over 30 invites!!
I really hope things look up for you!!!
I really hope things look up for you!!!
i'm so sorry!!!! i hate it when people do that!!! it'd be better if they just told the truth...sorry i can't make it. not hard to say. people are just so ignorant sometimes!
oh, hun... i am so sorry this happened! i hope you can have a good rest of the day! i'd probably have been too upset to talk to any of them, also... but maybe you can think of a few good choice words for the next time you see them!!! :)
I agree with sweetangel, that is awful, i dont like people who tell me they are going to do something then dont do it, the least they couldve done was called a a day or two in advance and say they couldnt come. Im sorry you day didnt turn out how you wanted it but you will have much more memories with your little bundle of joy in days to come
That is awful! Why do people do that! I have seen several others say the same thing happened! What has society come to!?
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