Being a teen mother vent/rant story

[kaysham]

I guess when a teen becomes pregnant at a young age , you can expect to be judged. but, its crazy when your own mother puts you down. I am currently 18 years old, got pregnant a few weeks before my 18 birthday. Ive been with the same guy for 3 years and till this day were still going strong through all the hard times. well, when i first told my mother she was excited about being a grandmother.this didnt last long though. a few weeks later my mother called me numerous names from a *****, to a loser and even said i was going to be a horrible mother. she kicked me out and told me she hoped i died. loving right? she even took me off her insurance. luckily i got my own. but i had sufffered her abuse since being a kid so i was used to it. i just believe its funny how my own mother who dropped out of highschool , had six kids & didnt get her life together till i turned 18 could be so cruel. well, to prove her wrong me & my babys father moved out to our own place, pay our own phone , electicity, gas/heat, rent, groceries & other necessities. we do this without our parents help. Not to mention we have two cars that we got on our own. My bf works & were both taking college classes & plan to pursue our education. (i wanna be a dental assistant then hygenist). We even have everything we need for the baby. from crib, 30 or so bottles,clothes to swings. just everything even love. because even though this baby wasnt planned he is a blessing. he motivates me 3x more to do what i need to. hes my everything and hes not even here. i know times are going to be hard but i know i can do this. not only because his father is there but because my baby means more than life itself to me. and i will do anything for him. well after all that my mother wants to try and now be in my life . she didnt even apologize she acted like nothing happened. is this crazy if i dont want much to do with her? she doubted me. and put me down. who said teen mothers cant be grwat parents? because regaurdless i know im goingto be the best for my son. without the help of others. i like to handle my own business. sorry for this long post just wanted to rant about how things have been so far. I believe im doing more than what i should. a great job.

[Makayla213]

That's kind of how my dad is. I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 13, and had her when I was 14. My whole pregnancy he wouldn't talk to me, and when he did he would tell me all the time I was a f*ck up. He told my SO that he was going to kick his a*s as soon as he turned 18. Then, on the day she was born he decided that he was just going to be in our lives. Now, I turned 18 in August and I found out I was pregnant with my son June 7th. He found out at my best friends funeral from some nosey bi*ch that I was pregnant again. I then later got texts from his girlfriend saying a bunch of sh*t about this baby and how my SO was a POS because he wasn't going anywhere in life and he hasn't done anything. My SO needs to be 21 before he can go to the training academy to become an officer so after the baby is born he will be doing that. In February our daughter will be 4, our son is due on the 9th, and we have been together for 5 years. My dad hasn't talked to me since the funeral.

[MommahElizabeth]

All to you girl! You sound like you're doing perfectly fine without your mother. So much props for yourself & your babys dad! Continue your education to become even better of a parent. I was in your shoes for a bit, but my daughters dad was the one who wouldn't let me work or go to school. So I left his *** and now In.3terms I'll graduate and I'll be a probation officer (: & I'm only 20 years old ! Dont let anyone put you down, remember when the negative people leave your life, newer & better opportunities open up to you! Much luck hun.

[bethshahan]

I'm sorta similar too. Though me and my mom are fine now. I found out I was pregnant a couple weeks after I graduated high school. I didnt tell my mom until I knew for sure and she did the same. She told me I was stupid, she told me to get an abortion, and put my relationship down with my boyfriend as well, telling me he was going to leave when the baby gets here and I'd end up alone because nobody wants a teen mom as a girlfriend. I wondered how she could say those horrible things to me when she got pregnant at FIFTEEN, and them again at SEVENTEEN & AGAIN at nineteen, putting my brother up fot adoption. Then pregnant two other times after that! She continues to this day tell me I wont be able to make it through college because not only am I not smart enough, I'll have a baby who will consume half my time. But for her information my boyfriend has stuck around and I'm currently 36+4. We also live together. He has a job as a security personnel at coal mining sites and I start college onlionline next semester. We do get government help in state insurance because my mom also kicked me off of hers but we are doing perfectly fine and I couldn't be happier.

[A_J_F]

That's awesome it sounds like you are doing great :) i don't know what it's like to have your mom put you down mine abandoned me when i was born but my dad sure didn't approve lol. I'm only 18 9months i take care of my dad and my bf and i are about to be together 3years i go to university to be a lawyer and my bf is in the military and i think we are doing great as well considering it all and we get help from no one i don't get why people judge

[kaysham]

wow. our stories are similar. thats crazy how you had to put your education on hold for her. im happy i at least can pursue my education. & i dont mind your ranting , i actually like to talk to others in similar situations &get advice!(:

[brittanyraes]

Ooo. You sound like my life lol. My boyfriend and I were together a year and I found out I was pregnant a few days before my 18th bday. I was already graduated from high school and was supposed to start college in January but I don't qualify for any financial aid and my mom told me it was more important they pay for her to go to school and I would have to wait. So I got a job, lived with my bf in our own house and then found out I was pregnant. She told me to have an abortion, I was going to live off of welfare, and wasn't ever going to be anything. And my life was over. Even at my baby shower she told half my family they couldn't come or else she was going to leave and cause a scene so she ruined that. (Did the same with my graduation) she took of to Florida with the guy she cheated on my dad with and didn't come. And now she just tells me "oh while all your friends are in college, your at home pregnant"... Which really p*sses me off because it's not like I could afford to go to school anyways. Hers was more important... Anyways, sorry I'm ranting on your post lol just know there's people going thru the same thing!