well I am giving up

[depressed748]

I have been trying to concieve since my m/c in december. I have decided not try anymore and if its meant for me to have kids then it will happen. I am happy for all the woman that were able to concieve and go on to have babies. I think its time to leave the forum for a while. I dont know what to do anymore having a child is my dream and its now happening. I really though this was month only for AF to show her ugly head which today is the last day but I dont want to get hurst again so I am going to refrain from BDing if I can. Again good luck ladies...I hope that everyone has happy healthy babies.

[xoxo_Confused_xoxo]

aww...sweetie..dont try so hard...thats what worked for me :) So excite yourself, think thta it wont be positive...i know this sounds ridiculous lol but it did work for me...i tried and wanted it soooo bad i did everything. When it wasnt workin i decided to give up. Didnt try as much...and one day i decided to take a HPT just for fun i guess...and thats when i got my BFP

[richeygirl]

Don't leave the site & don't give up, alot of ladies here has been though something & we're still here. I had an m/c in Jan. & it was hard on me, my first child & I felt like a failure( I felt the m/c was my fault) I waited all these years before even thinking about having children & then I met my husband & everything changed. It didn't take me long to realize that it is normal, my husband wanted to start again right way but I wanted to wait & now I'm ready to start again  but the thing is I don't focus on it, I know that's hard to do bc sometimes I find myself thinking abt it to & I also want to be a mother more than anything in the world & I believe, it will happen & even when you don't get ur BFP know ur time will come. ALWAYS STAY POSITIVE & BELIEVE IN UR DREAMS NO MATTER IF IT DOES GET A LITTLE HARD, IT WILL HAPPEN SWEETY!!!!!  KEEP THE FAITH. You can reach out to me if you need to talk.

[depressed748]

Thanks to all you ladies for your reponses I will think about all that had been said. I do appreciate each and every reponse.

[Heather_K_]

Dont leave!!!  i had and ectopic in July 07 followed by a M/C in the september.... it's only this year that i have now found out i am pregnant (when i had given up wola it happened) just week's before im due to get married, so alothough it's not happened yet for you honey relax it will happen when it's ready to and just enjoy life. xxxx

[FirefightersWife]

Since my first m/c my periods went from clockwork to crazy. I was peeing in a stick practically veryday of the month trying to see when I was ovulating....nothing seemed to be working. Here is the advice that I was given by my doc....and it worked we are currently trying to make sure a baby grows and praying everyday that it works for us. Anywho - here were our instructions....sounds like a lot, but totally worth it. He said to wait 3 days past the end of my period....and then try every other day for the following 18 days....even on my "long" months of 39 day cycles....this should hit my ovulation time sometime. Anywho that is what we did....demanding considering our schedules, but it worked....so give that a try before you give up all hope. :)

[ang_gav]

dont give up!!! I had 4 miscarriages before I got pregnant with my son. I quit trying and it happened.

[Atia_Julii]

I hope you don't leave, but I definitely understand your need to.  I keep hearing that the best way to conceive is to not obsess about it, and let nature take it's course.  I had to leave this forum for a while as well because it's impossible to relax when you spend all day reading about people infertility issues, pregnancy issues, and everything else.  If nothing else, I sometimes leave the day scared of all that can happen.  But at the same time, this forum has wonderful women who provide nonjudgmental advice.

Best of luck to you always!

[depressed748]

I want to thank all you ladies for your responses I do appreciate it. When I conceived the first time I was not tring so I do know what some of mean. Now when I do BD I do it for fun and not as a job I dont chart and do all that other stuff. I just want to be a mother so bad that it hurts. I will consider taking you guys advice and staying on the forum.

[KellyA74]

It took me 5 months to get pregnant the 1st time.....so don't give up....like the others said, try BD'ing just for fun and you may get a suprise!

[evthing4reason]

You don't need to leave. Don't stop ttc either, maybe just don't take it as seriously. Remember Drs want you to try for a whole year until they will start testing you for fertility problems, and we know you can get pregnant, doesn't it usually take most couple 6-9 months?

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

I'm so sorry you are feeling so down but after my first MC Oct 2006 I didn't get pregnant again til Aug 2007 and ended up having another MC.....but luckily it didn't take as long to get pregnant this time I was pregnant again Dec 2007....but it can take time and just because you are having trouble doesn't mean you aren't meant to have children...I to thought this but turns out someone had bigger plans for me.....I'm now 23.2 weeks with twins.......so hang in there and there is nothing wrong with taking a break......just don't give up hope.

Brandi

[shasy03]

I gave up trying a couple weeks ago...I'm still here.  Just because you stop trying doesn't mean that you have to leave.  This is one of my stress reliefs even though I do not get on as much I still come here.  I have been ttc it will be a year on the 20th of May.  I too had a m/c but mine was September of 06.  We were not trying nor could we afford a child but after the m/c we told each other that when God is ready we are.  So I just went back to that.  Whenever it happens it does....I'm not going to stop trying to get preggers but I'm just not thinking about it.  I still do everything to get preggers but again just not thinking about it as much!  I really hope that you reconsider!  Good Luck hun and I will be praying and thinking about you.

[joshuawatkin]

Dont leave the forum hun, it will happen. I know it must be a little hard for you when some ladies get there bfp but you will be telling us soon that you have got yours

[pjbjd1007]

Have you charted when you ovulate?  If you ovulate late in your cycle you could have a decreased luteal cycle and just need over the counter vitamins or maybe prescription medicine to increase fertility.

[MOM23ANGELS25F]

Don't give up hon....... It will happen..... Actually, do give up... Just BD whenever and it will happen.... If that makes any sense ? It happened to me when I stopped trying so hard...... When you least expect it, it will happen.... don't leave...

[onlyme27]

Don't give up hope.  There times will make when you did get pregnant even more special.  Don't leave the forum.  You need support and here is where you can get it.  I will be praying for you.