Aa
frustrated.
Uh. I know i have raging hormones but seriously how can i deal with this. Im about to break down any second...i want to cry all day! My bf doesnt understand i have no friends who will understand and im tired of hearing "im sorry your feeling like that" or "it'll get better" like stop it! I want to feel better emotionally right now! My bf fxckin ***** he seriously wants to sleep after he slept 10hrs last night and i slept maybe 4hrs cause i cant get comfortable. Then he doesnt work so wtf is he tired from! Im taking care of all the bills im super stressed! Im done! I work constantly, all my coworkers never do their jobs so im stuck doing more work, then when i tell my boss he says he'll deal with it but never does. My mom is constantly begging for money when im trying to save money for my twins and my 4yr old. But as soon as i ask her for a ride she says she will but never shows up. Ugh! Im sooo overwhelmed with everything right now i couldnt even finish writing this without crying. God i just want to get away! Now i cant breathe, great. Im soo over this .
Well I'd say you need to talk to your bf about helping out. He can't just sit on his a.ss and not do anything. I don't exactly know how you could deal with the work thing cause I've never had a problem like that before. The mom thing I'd just say stop asking her for rides cause obviously she doesn't care if she leaves you hanging. I'm dealing with sorta the same thing I always wanna break down and cry. I went to the store and got a thing called Calms Fort its like a chamomile pill. It helps me relax alot plus it helps me sleep. Try that and soak in a bubble bath at night. I have been doing that for a few weeks and its helped. Just try to get rid of the things that stress you out.
Yeah im gonna try:) and my bf he just doesnt really care cause ive tried talking with him and he just says yeah okay but never helps out.
Then kick him out its like your on your own maybe ig you kick him out he will steo up I mean serously you working instead of him
Just take a deep breath. Try tackling each problem one at a time, not all at once.
1) tell your bf he needs a job. There is NO excuse for him not working. If he stays home during the day to take care of your 4 year old then he can get a 3rd shift job or look into daycares. He needs to contribute. Being financially responsible for soon to be 5 people?! No that's insane and nobody deserves that. Waaay too much stress and right now you shouldn't be stressed. As for his sleeping, that tends to be a sign of depression so could he be depressed? I think you could ask him if he's doing okay and let him know that you're there if he needs to talk. The fact he's sleeping so much makes me think he isn't watching the 4 year old during the day, it sounds like you do EVERYTHING so you need to tell him he has to start contributing.
2) I would make it your goal to get a new job after you give birth. Getting one right now doesn't seem possible and it's extremely hard to find a job when your pregnant and need maternity leave. I would just clock in, work, clock out. I would also do just your work (and do it amazing), when the boss notices things aren't done and ask say "I did my job. I completed (insert everything you did)." You could also list off what the other employees were supposed to do and didn't complete. Just make sure not to be rude when saying it and maybe even add in "I just didn't have time to complete all of their work too". Once you're off maternity leave I would start looking for higher paying jobs where you'd be happier, don't waste your life at a place that adds more bad than good.
3) do you live with your mom? If you do then that's a hard situation. I would just stop asking her for rides and after the babies come see if it's possible to move out. If you don't live with her then I would cut her off. Don't ask her for rides or anything and when she comes to you for money just say "you know I really needed help the other day when I asked for a ride and you said you could but never came. I feel like I'm always giving and I need to put my money towards my children and my own finances.". As hard as it can be to disconnect from family sometimes it's what needs to be done. You don't have to completely stop talking to her or anything but don't go out of your way to help her when she clearly won't help you.
You need to take a bubble bath and relax. Maybe do a face mask and light some candles and just take a break. You're a strong person and you'll get through this :) just deal with one problem at a time and remember that things always get better
1) tell your bf he needs a job. There is NO excuse for him not working. If he stays home during the day to take care of your 4 year old then he can get a 3rd shift job or look into daycares. He needs to contribute. Being financially responsible for soon to be 5 people?! No that's insane and nobody deserves that. Waaay too much stress and right now you shouldn't be stressed. As for his sleeping, that tends to be a sign of depression so could he be depressed? I think you could ask him if he's doing okay and let him know that you're there if he needs to talk. The fact he's sleeping so much makes me think he isn't watching the 4 year old during the day, it sounds like you do EVERYTHING so you need to tell him he has to start contributing.
2) I would make it your goal to get a new job after you give birth. Getting one right now doesn't seem possible and it's extremely hard to find a job when your pregnant and need maternity leave. I would just clock in, work, clock out. I would also do just your work (and do it amazing), when the boss notices things aren't done and ask say "I did my job. I completed (insert everything you did)." You could also list off what the other employees were supposed to do and didn't complete. Just make sure not to be rude when saying it and maybe even add in "I just didn't have time to complete all of their work too". Once you're off maternity leave I would start looking for higher paying jobs where you'd be happier, don't waste your life at a place that adds more bad than good.
3) do you live with your mom? If you do then that's a hard situation. I would just stop asking her for rides and after the babies come see if it's possible to move out. If you don't live with her then I would cut her off. Don't ask her for rides or anything and when she comes to you for money just say "you know I really needed help the other day when I asked for a ride and you said you could but never came. I feel like I'm always giving and I need to put my money towards my children and my own finances.". As hard as it can be to disconnect from family sometimes it's what needs to be done. You don't have to completely stop talking to her or anything but don't go out of your way to help her when she clearly won't help you.
You need to take a bubble bath and relax. Maybe do a face mask and light some candles and just take a break. You're a strong person and you'll get through this :) just deal with one problem at a time and remember that things always get better
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