Help dont know what to do

[shelby_89]

hi, im 20 yrs old now and i've already had one abortion. my bf doesnt want to have any kids yet but i cant go through with that again. my period has been a week late but im scared to take a test. what should i do??????

[Sarah61086]

I dont think you can do anything until you know for sure if you are pregnant.
Do a test and if your not it will put your mind to rest and if you are, then you can start working out what to do.
An abortion is a decision both you and your partner need to decied on, it cant be one sided.
Are you ready to be a mum? Can you handle possibly being a single mum if your bf wont stick around. You have a lot to work out.
Being a mum is tough at times, but also the most fantastic thing in the world.
If you think you can do it and are ready for it, then have your baby.
If you do decide to abort, i strongly suggest birth control to prevent all this in the future.
I was 20 when i fell pregnant and my partner was 19. We had been together for only 4 months.
We had a lot of ups and downs in our relationship, but nearly 4 yrs on we are still going strong.
Im 23 now and my partner 22 and we are planning a second, so it can work.
Best of luck to you

[ammanda]

All I can say is take the test and find out before you jump to anything. and its very hard to have to go through an abortion if you are pregnant, and don't want to do that again, but your boyfriend want you to, you have to decide if your gonna do what your boyfriend wants or whats best for you and your baby.  If you keep having unprotected sex like this knowing ya'll don't want kids then maybe there's something deep down inside of you telling you that you do want a baby, so if that's the case, leave your boyfriend and have your baby. i know it could be hard to do it alone, but not as hard as it would be to go through another abortion, and if I am wrong and you really don't want this baby, please consider adoption.  What you consider an accident could be someone else s miracle

[Victoria01]

You can always look into putting the baby up for adoption. There are many women out there that would love the chance to adopt. You can also decide to keep the baby and not your bf, but the first thing you should do is take a test and see if you are actually pregnant or not.

[alaysha]

What I meant by double up with condoms was use birth control and condoms at the same time.

[hannah0912]

i agree with not having unprotected sex but DO NOT double up on condoms it causes more harm as they can rub together and break.
but hun take a test you will be ok.. im in same situation as you (well i am pregnant got pregnant ont he pill) but talk it thru with your boyfriend if u r thats what im tryiing to do
x

[alaysha]

Take a test and stop having unprotected sex. Get on birth control and double up with condoms.