Deadbeat dads

[laylasmommi]

I'm 24 weeks and I'm having a baby girl I'm super excited but I can't stop thinking about the father of my baby girl. He doesn't want to be there for her because he already has two sons and he doesn't want to raise a girl. Should I just let it go and don't involve myself with him, or keep  reaching out to him?? Someone give me some good advice,  I feel soo belittled.

[oliviachae]

Hello I'm 30 weeks and have the same problem. My baby daddy doesn't want to anything to do with this baby and doesn't even want anyone to know about his little girl because he already has his own family. I was really angry for a bit then realized to just let him do what he wants. I don't want someone around my daughter that doesn't want to be there. I have made it very clear  that he is welcome to come around if he would like and he can be apart of her life in anyway but I will not make him but he will pay child sorry and he is completely okay with that

[laylasmommi]

Thank you everybody but I feel like it's so hard to just let go because it's so unfair that he helped make her and he can't be man enough to be there

[JustSabrina]

Im 17 weeks and was in love with the father of my child. But out of no where he quit coming around. And i get a random call from a woman who claims to be his gf. Long story short i found out that i was a part of a big lie. He has two children. I was only aware of one. I told him i would never keep him from his child. I havent heard from him since. Its upsetting but im not going to pressure him. If he doesnt want to be around im not going to ask him or make him. Do for your child what ypu think is right. But dont stress yourself. Stress is bad for the baby. Your the mom and you know what your heart and brain are telling you.

[Marissalara]

My dad didn't want to be a part of my life and my mom spent so much time pushing him to make an effort that it got my hopes up and just would break my heart thinking there was hope. I wish that she had let it go instead. It would have been sad but everything would have been clear from the beginning and would have saved me a lot of frustration. Just from the child's point of view

[jamarismomi]

i agree with letting him know that he can of course see the baby bc little girls need thier fathers but if he doesn't come around forget him when he is old and needs someone to wipe his behind it will totally catch him when he doesnt have het support its a shame that men can bring life into the world but not raisethe baby the proper way and trust mama im in this situation now with my two year old daughters dad.....

[SerenityAnnBray]

Don't involve him. If he wants to be there he will but if not don't push him to it. My dad was never there for me and my mom was just fine. But if you need help financially then make him pay child support. I know it ***** and it's very selfish of him to do that. But just do what's best for you and your daughter.

[may2015mommy]

Don't push him. He'll be around if he wants. If not its his lost. I have some problems with my unborn child's father but remotely he makes himself available when it comes to the bby. We are not together and don't plan on being together which makes it hard. We have to accept the fact some guys will not be much of a father or help once the baby is here. You have to think of your bby and love her twice as much. Its easier said than done but it will make things so much easier.

[jaelee104]

I would just let it go if I were you. My 2 year old daughters dad doesnt really want anything to do with his daughter unless its convienent for him or its a holiday. I quit pushing him to spend time with her because it was only harming my daughter and myself in the long run. I have him on child support and he knows he can see her whenever he wants to but I refuse to make him do anything for her. Maybe just tell him he can see your daughter if he wishes but if he doesnt message you first then dont bother. Best of luck