gender disappointment

[babyberry000]

Has anyone experienced gender disappointment with Their first baby?  My side of the family is pressuring me that they won't be happy unless its a girl and my husbands side is a little sexest and kinda only wants a boy. I still don't know what I'm having yet and i feel stressed and pressured. I feel if i have a boy then they are going to make rude comments like thank God its not a girl, :/ especially BC that's what I'm kinda hoping it is. I'll be fine with either one as long as it Is healthy but I'm worried :( help, thoughts, anything?

[ireloc]

I was disappointed,  our family was thrilled. I really wanted and had my heart and mind set in on a girl, so when I found out it was a boy, I was quiet shocked and sad for a while.  I am coming around, but there are times I still wish it was a girl. I am sure all of that will quickly fade when he gets here.

[babyberry000]

Thanks guys, i feel better now. I agree they shouldn't be saying anything like that but they do, once baby is born i hope none of this will matter, at last my hubby is on the same page, but at first he really wanted a girl

[FirstBabyJones]

My hubby really wanted a boy but we are having a girl, he was upset at first and still isn't excited but hopefully it will change once she is born

[a_love]

honestly once they see that baby the will not care one bit about what gender it is....they may be a little disappointed but that's their problem not yours....don't worry about what they feel it your baby and your the one who has to take care of it and love it , they'll come around to whatever it is and if they don't you don't need their support anyways....

[jennifer_grant]

Maybe you shouldn't tell either side what you are having and when the baby gets here they will love the baby whether a boy or girl.

[bubbles_baby]

We can't choose what we have so they just need to sit down. This is your pregnancy

[Lil_bit1204]

That it was a boy.

[Lil_bit1204]

They should support whatever you want. I was disappointed and depressed when I found out I was having a little boy. I wanted a little girl so bad. I already have one boy. My husband was happy but it took me a month or two to get happy.

[immediatelyinlove]

I didn't care as long as they were healthy. I think it's immature to worry about something that trivial!

[meeks1222]

I think that's totally sexist. your the one carrying this child as well as going through all the complications & giving birth to this child. what everyone else wants is their own concern. if they want a girl or boy tell them to have their own child. as long as your baby is healthy & has 10 fingers & 10 toes TRUST whatever it is you'll be happy.