Advice Please!

[Newmommyonboard]

Well, Im 19 years old and Im 21wks&2 days pregnant. I need some advice because my mother hates my baby daddy. I mean she has her reasons. One of those reasons is the fact that she caught us having sex in her house and I did get pregnant in her house as well. Well she hates him and she is trying to make decisions for me. Shes telling me i cant talk to him and when i told her he was texting me she told me to cut that off. She doesnt want him around period. Not even in my baby life. She said he cant come see the baby. Its not even her baby. Its me and his and thats making me mad because im grown as hell but at the same time i dont want to cause any bad blood between me and my mom because i do stay with her and shes the only thing i have. Anyways she doesnt want him in the baby life at all and I do. And he wants to be there for our baby as well. Not only does she not want him around my child but she told me i had to change my baby name and come up with a new one just because it sounds like his. This is driving me crazy, im grown and its my baby. At the same time i want to respect her wishes because i know she doesnt mean any harm but still. Also i dont want to have to sneak behind her back and talk to him and let him in my baby life. Im too grown for that. What should i do? I stay with her and it is her house so i have to reapect her rules!

[Newmommyonboard]

Im going to try to talk to her about it even though i know how she is.  Also im not really trying to rush into my own place because neither me or my bf have a job rite now. Im in college with no car either. Its like i have to respect her wishes because ineed her

[munch2369]

I lived with my mom and i moved out when i got pregnant. I think that is your best bet. You are grown and maybe if u work up until you are due and save money and get your own place that will show her that she cant control you. Idk if i would recommend living with the father, if that is an option. Thats what i did and we defnately have problems, but if the dad wants to be in the babies life that is wrong of her to not let him. She is only hurting that baby.

[CHXSINGNOV]

I totally feel you! I'm 18 weeks and almost 22 years old and my parents still try to tell me how to run my life and dislikes my baby's dad even though he's trying to do right. But I agree, getting your own place would be the best option,  dunno if that's possible for you right now; my bd is going to end up having a talk with mtt family. Maybe ask your mom to talk everything out? I hope it works out cause I feel your pain!!

[serpantdedieu]

You need to stand up yo her and so does daddy. Living under her roof or not that's his child and if hez wanting to be supporting and is tsking responibility then he has every right to see his child. Remind her that every child needs a daddy too and your child has every right to be with his/her loving father.

[alexiswoods]

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[alexiswoods]

it's not her baby , it's yours . your over 18 .
Does your bf? Have his own place ? if not try to work on it before the baby comes . she can't keep him away from his child even if you live in her house under her rules . there could be a good chance she changes her mind about your bf later on in your pregnancy too

[Mommy_Daddy_2]

Id say you need to get your own place. Tell your mom you will be looking for a new place to stay or she needs to understand that you are grown and you want your bd to be apart of your babies life. she may not agree with your decisions but it is not her life or her baby who will be effected by the choice.

[brittbarbz]

She shouldn't have a say in whether or not the baby's dad is around. My parents got divorced when I was 2 & I didn't meet my dad until I was 7. I didn't build a relationship with him until I was a teen and despised him. I know you're mom is probably upset because you got pregnant at 19, but maybe your boyfriend can try to show her that he wants to help? Maybe have him get a job (if he doesn't already have one) and have him help out with buying some stuff.