So Stressed :.(

[Ashley910]

Im 22, me and my husband been rocky for awhile and now it not helping that im 11 weeks pregnant. Im not the best wife and i admit that but its so hard going through bs and and even still wanting to be pregnant. Everybody think my life is perfect and im living this perfect military life but its no where near perfect. Now we want a divorce, im 2700 miles away from my home, and i dont kno what to do... im so stressed, where will i go, how will i support my child? How will i get home? Idk anything, i gave up my whole life for him.now its over.

[mzdillard]

I know how u feel. I moved out my house,  got a place with him that didn't work, now im three months pregnant plus i have a three year-old .  . Have to start over. I feel so dumb for giving up my house.  No family or friends just me an my little ones. ...try to work it out. Pray on it

[householder19]

That's good yo hear! Glad you guys are guna work it out!  Hope everything goes good! God bless and good luck hun! :)

[Ashley910]

I'm just now seeing this but thank you guys so much and we did give it another try and now it seems to be going good just keeping my faith and fingers crossed

[carloswife]

It is not too late for your marraige.And i dont apologize for announcing my faith but let me just say,because ive had to face the same in my marraige.You can never fix anything broken on your own,especially your marraige.My husband and i turned to God because we tried everything else and still had no answers,and no reconciliation.We seperated at least four times.Two weeks before our wedding we found out i was pregnant.Im five months now,having a boy,and we have a soon to be five year old daughter.You admit u havent been the best wife,and your honesty is a big step.Things happen when we let our emotions get the best of us.U get to a place where u just dont want to deal with it anymore.But if i could encourage u.Please dont quit.U have to stop and look in your side mirrors and see whats in your blind spot and thats your unborn child.Your decisions have already began to affect the outcome of that childs life before he or she comes out of your womb.The hardest part will be dealing with the consequence of your choices once the child is old enough to understand.My husband is a step father to my daughter.I was a single mom for four years till i found my husband and got married.I dont regret the choices i made because my daughters dad was abusive,a drunk,addicted to drugs and irresponsible.I got pregnant with her at 18.Im 24 today and even now that im married and my husband is amazing with her.Thered still the side effects i see in my little girls life.Thank God we have Him to help us through it.Weve been serving God now for three years and weve had to fight for out marraige because satan is always after marraiges.Its God ordained,and marraige works out when He is first.Satan attacks our marraige full force at times and we have to fight our way through it,NOT in our own ability but with the help of God.I struggle really bad with my attitude,and my anger because of the abuse from my past.Even now theres times i struggle to trust my husband,even God.But i dont quit because theres a bigger picture that i cant see,but God does.I have a responsibility as wife and a mother,same formy husband in being a father and the head of our household.There are times i want to walk away,out of fear,sometimes out of frustration,but i remind myself that when i said those vows it wasnt temporary,it was forever,and i made that commitment to my husband and before God on that very day.Problems arise.We're three imperfect people,oon to be four once our son is born....all living under one roof.When i married him i took on his baggage and he took on my baggage and my daughter's baggage.It can get heavy sometimes,n its alot to carry but the good news is God will take it when i just cant bare it anymore.And he would not have entrusted me with my husband or my kids if he knew i couldnt handle it.So be strong and dont give up.So maybe youve fought and your tired of fighting.What will it hurt to give one more blow? Ita a new year,and this could be the year things turn around for u.But we never know when we run.Count your cost hun.If the good still outweighs the bad then youve got something to fight for still.And if the bad is outweighing the good,it dosent mean quit.Of the bad outweighs the good then its an opportunity for u to see where u went wrong and work at making it good again.Marraige takes work.Theres no such thing as a fairytale marraige n i tell people if u dont wanna work stay single because marraige is something u have to work on.A house int built over night neither i a marraigr.U wouldnt give up building that house youve waited so long for.Why give up on your marraige? When material things fade away,a marraige still stands.A house can fall down but you till have family to live for so pick your battles and pick them wisely.Your marraige can make it.

[minnies24kayla]

I take my hat off to you babe but try to forget that for at least a few days just to gather your thoughts together stress is not good for mummy or baby what will be will be im sure you can do this is a independent way ring people figure a way out just be happy lifes way to  short not to be happy after all xxxxxxxxxxxx luck and love amen xxx

[Jrob0530]

Military relationships are some of the hardest ones going so don't be too hard on yourself.
I'm surprised the pregnancy has not brought you closer, but either way work with the situation you're in. Don't count your family out I would contact them first, but all the above is rite I would look for civilian work to get by as you navigate through divorce, alimony & child support. The military will NOT let him neglect his responsibility to you.

[thirdandlastbaby]

Is he willing to take a break for a week or so to think things over? I mean unless the relationship is abusive its always worth it to try. And maybe you can find a civilian job while stationed and save up some money to go home. Idk where you are, but in a lot of states you can't get divorced if you are pregnant. Don't know if that is different for military or not. Plus that would be better because when you file for divorce after the baby is here they will automatically calculate in child support based on what he makes in the military plus require him to still provide medical.