My aunt and cousin were horrible about my daughter's name. Her daddy wasn't 100% but I put my foot down and asked him to meet her first. I was right, the name was spot on for her. We took my dad out for his birthday and everyone asked if I'd chosen a name, so very proudly I told them. My aunt turned round without a pause for breath to tell me what a horrible name it was and that I was wrong, followed by my cousin, her daughter joining in and my nan. Even my other cousin, her son stuck up for me, saying what right did they have to be so hateful and rude. I was surprised because I have little to do with him. I never showed it, but I was very upset, but mostly insulted and hurt. To be honest, the damage was done, as they've had little to do with her since. Even more gutting was at the meal, my dad (my stepdad of only 3 yrs at the time), told me how proud he was as it was his mums name who sadly is no longer with us. I didn't even know, as he hadn't talked too much about her. It confirmed it even more for me then, as he had been more of a dad to me in those couple of years than my sperm donar had ever been.
As to my hubby's family, we never told them anything, we still haven't told them and she's 3.5 yrs. Their choice for treating me so badly, they cannot expect to be rewarded with my beautiful daughter.
Such a shame people feel they have the right to be so spiteful! Screw them though, it is your decision, not theirs! Good luck x
We didnt tell anyone as it is none of their business. My husband and I like the names we picked and if our families dont then it really just too bad. Its your baby and you should pick any name you like.
Girl I feel you. My mother and my mother n law don't like our name because they can't say it right. We are Hispanic too, so they want everything old school and flip a switch when you do differently.. -.-
Nope lol but that's my side. Her dad's side I'm not sure I don't really talk to them and he really hasn't had any input in anything because of the way he treats me. My baby girls names gonna be Ciara Janise. Her first is pronounced like Kiera Knightley's is but that's not who she's named after. And her middle name actually happens to be my great grandparents last name. So I'm keeping it within the family and her first name is Irish and my entire family is Irish. My side has nothing to complain about and like I said his side I don't talk to cuz they all tried telling him it wasn't his baby back in October and that he needed to get a DNA test. So his family lost all respect from me
we always keep our kids name a secret but by now (3 kids) people just expect to be suprised by the names we pick. they had a hard time with my middle babies name. it took every one a second to get used to it, but it didnt hurt my feelings, my kid. and he looks like his name now (: we tend to decide the day we leave the hospital excactly what the final name is as we fill out the birth certificate!
I ha've this all the time when I was having my son (3 years ago ) I said if a boy Leon James if a girl Roxanne Jay and we had a boy my mum told me she would just call him lj or Lee as she hated the name Leon I told her to get over her self now we having anothe r baby we find out in 14 hours what we are having :) and of a girl his mum dosnt like the girl name as we still want Roxanne Jay for a girl or Hayden Carter for a boy and they don't like the names me and my hubby have very English names ( chelsea and James so they don't like that there not the old fashion names but I have all ready told them my baby's will be called what we want and no one gets input at all even if everyone says they think it sounds horrible I just blank it
Yeah it can get frustrating but as long as you guys are happy with the names then thats all that matters
My family is mad bc supposedly y girl names are "white" n were pr.
Wow I'm sorry you had a falling out with your mother in law but it's good you stood up for what you believe in and that your fiance had your back. Personally I don't like naming Jr's nothing wrong with it but it's so common.
Yup actually my family is. I just dont care. I even made a false name (earth) to mess with them. Lol its nobody business.
My fiance wanted a jr but I didn't so we decided on a different name and his family still give me crap for it and hes already born. His nana told me the other day that I still have the chance to change it. And me and his mom got into it big time when I told her I wasnt giving him the jr. She told me that if I didn't let him have his jr that he would go hqve it with someone else. Luckily he had my back on it. But he was incarcerated pretty much my whole pregnancy so I feel like I had the right to pick the name. But I still wanted him to help me with it. This is YOUR baby not theirs so YOU have the right to name him whatever you want (: don't let them get to you. They will have to call him whatever you name him and will just have to get used to that fact (:
Mine already have it decided... they rnt even asking my opinion. It's not fair but I don't wanna sound rude and say something but they could be a little more considerate. The worst part is we havent found out the gender of the baby yet and they r only looking forward to a boy... :(
My family is the same im naming my baby Oliver Finn and they are saying I need to name the baby something more Mexican but it's my baby I will name him what ever I please
My mil has the worst taste in names who names there son Jose Maria so she has no input and I let her know that she wanted me to name my Lil girl Salem? ?? But her name will be Bailey and I've had my girl names picked before I met her son and he knew that when we started talking about kids I had delany first and now girl #2 is bailey and I'm done!
Ur mil and whoever else is cray cray if they think they get a opinion cause there not going to be screaming it when the kid is bad or won't get out of the toys at McDonald's so it's so up to u mamma!
Mine dident give me crap about it they just told me they wish I would of picked out simething a little more easy for my mother In law who is in mexico. Im naming my son Ian Andres. Ian just because ive always love that name and Andres after his dad. So when they started saying how it was going to be hard for my mother in law to remember it. My husband jumped in and said it wasent a problem she could just call him.by his second name. And they havent said anything since. My family in the other hand love the name ian. Is simple and cute.
Your son middle is my grandfather name I love it
My in laws have big opinions about everything and yet they won't even come visit their grandkids. Last pregnancy my mother in law wouldn't talk to my hubby for 5 months because he told her to shut up about the name. So this time around we told her we're naming the baby Gidget and get over it. She cried. I think its hilarious because in reality we still don't have a name picked out. But I also don't have the stress of her calling twice a week with a list of suggestions. It was always the same ones and on the list of 10, 7 of them were some form of Lexi or Alexis.
I'm due May 8th and I wouldn't change my son's name for them or anyone else. Like you ladies said we are the ones carrying them and will be raising them so no one should have an input.
I had the opposite issue - my dad and my uncle don't like our son's name because it's too common. He's even named after my dad and our second son will be after my uncle! I have to say it could be worse, though. They just told me they didn't like it - they don't constantly rag on me for it.
I'm sorry you're going through this - just remember, he isn't their son. HE'S ALL YOURS :-)
My opinion is your in laws have nothing to do with the name. Choose the name you want for your child. I have only told you ladies the name of my child plus my boyfriend. I could care less about what anyone has to say about the name. We well I decided im not telling anyone our name until I deliver
I like Keegan Maverick the middle name is very unique.
We're naming our little one Keegan Maverick. We haven't heard anything negative about his name. Other than a." Really... why Keegan??" by my mom.. everyone loves it! We also made it very very clear that he's our son and we will name him what we please and if they don't like it then thats just too damn bad. lol. If Im going to carry him for months on end and raise him, I think as long as it's not a really out there name, I cant even see why anyone would think it weird haha
That's what I told my mother n law and she said 1. I wasn't even around and 2. She wouldn't have cared what I thought about her kids names. That's wen I told her that's exactly how I feel.