Inlaws being nasty about pregnancy

[PJGDEL]

Well i thought this was coming to a end saw them a few days ago and everything seemed fine, we talked about the baby and" grandma", even was helping picking out names. Few days later they came over to our house home with abortion paperwork, telling me to kill my baby! I should have known something was up when trying to show grandm US pictures she said she doesnt want to see that thing. I have no idea how to take these people anymore. We have told them we want this baby and we are happy. They keep being disrespectful and not listening to us. We said they have options either a be on the postive band wagon with us or not say anything at all. They informed us we are nobody to be giving them options.  I feel like no matter how we are handling this matter it doesnt sink in with them. Its OUR baby not theres! Back the Goshdarn up!!!

[Shayne1989]

wow the phone thing is rediculous! i can't believe they would stoop so low! Congrats on your BFP then after trying for a year!! I dont blame you for losing it with them i probably would have too, especially with the hormones! i wouldnt worry about them too much and just enjoy your pregnancy!

[PJGDEL]

NO WAY IM KEEPING OUR BABY! This is what we have wanted for a long time.

[PJGDEL]

Yeah i lost it the other day . Along the same lines as go F yourself and screw you! It made me feel so much better these people are a joke. We have a family plan phone with them and last night we got a text saying because of our condition we are having, they are cutting our minutes on the phone. What a load of crap. This whole phone thing was a way for all of us to save money! We went out and got our own cell phone today and sent there phone back with the abortion paperwork. We have been trying for over a year to have this baby. I prided myself on not speaking to them in a neg manner but there is only so much i can handle.

[Shayne1989]

I'm sorry you have to deal with in laws like that. my in laws werent too happy either and we were staying with them at the time my FIL stomped around the house for three days and was being a complete A hole. MIL just didnt even accept it really till we moved out.  Hope everything works out in the end for you and your hubby whether they decide to be on board or not.

[PJGDEL]

First off these nut jobs already have a grandchild that they  don't see because they are out of control. They use to get into big fights in front of her and talk bad about her dad to her. I have no clue why they are actting this way and it is SAD. I went for a check up  today, because of all the stress they are putting us through. My hubby has spoke with them many time on this matter it doesn't help. I think because i am not jewish they are looking down on me. Or that im going to school full time without a job. My hubby lost his job and income is tight but like i've said many times before this baby is due in March . I'm postive D can get a job and everything will work out. We have been working very hard towards getting everything back  on track. I thought they would be supportive i was surley wrong. Everyone goes through i hard time but never thought the worst would be his parents. They have been rude and nasty about a lot of things because im adopted my baby is going to have a defect and GENE probelms. I was talking to my OB about this today and she saw red, Number one she said i could have better gene than that whole family. 2nd her daughter is adopted. i've been told from the start that they are mean people they have always put me down from time to time but never  giving low blows like they do now.

[penswriter]

I think it might be a good time to stop visiting your in-laws. I wouldn't even call them grandparents.

It's your baby. Not theres. If you don't want to abort, don't. Talk to your s/o about this and ask him to talk to them or tell them to stay away from you and your baby.

[Shayne1989]

They tell you not to give them options but they hand you abortion papers?! Its YOU and your husbands life and honestly if it were me I'd tell them the same thing you did, either be on the wagon and be happy they are going to be grandparents or to just not say anything. I'd also tell them that since they want you to get rid of your baby that they can just never meet him/her. Did they give you a reason they are so against this? They sound very irrational. I'd tell them to screw off. lol

Congrats on your pregnancy btw!!! Have a happy and healthy nine months and forget your in laws!!

[PonyGirlPony]

Good lord, even if you AREN'T married they should never say anything like that!  Why on earth does this depend on her being married??  It's not the 50's!

Like Deila said, it's your life and your baby and you don't need that kind of stress and drama in your life, ever.  There should be no room for that.  They've made the decision that they are incapable of being grandparents with behavior like that.

Sending hugs to you!

[Deila23]

Yeah its your life and your baby not there's and if the don't like it so be it just ignore them and have a happy pregnancy with the family that is more that happy to welcome your child but watch they will regret saying all those mean things to you. Don't do what they want just so they are happy live your life with your baby they have already had there children and lived there life they don't need to run your life and baby. And I agree with all the ladies comments

[ammanda]

Do they have a reason for wanting u to abort your baby? if you guys are married and happy and want thins baby then why the heck are they telling u to murder it. thats a very precious gift. id go on with the pregnancy and be happy together. screw them!

[julianovak]

WOW, what kind of "grandparents" would want you to abort??!!!! oh my goodness, this is the first time ive EVER heard of this!!! You TWO are MARRIED. Oh my goodness!!!! WOW. i read your post and im in shock, i mean disbelieve, Hun im so sorry you have those ppl in your life..... They sound nuts! No ofense. No matter what (im telling you ahead of time) NEVER EVER EVER leave your future child with them!!!! That is so freaky! Like i said IVe NEVER heard of this type of situation before! I mean you ARE flippin married!!!!! Geesssh. Good luck hun! Vent alllll you want on here! Because if you keepit all in, you will snap one day.

[lil_lady25]

You need to have your husband have a talk with his parents. Firstly he needs to tell them how rude and inconsiderate they are being. You are pregnant and do not need that drama in your life. It is not good for you emotionally nor physically. He needs to stand up for you both and your baby and tell them whats up. If they dont see eye to eye then I guess they are deciding to not be a part of your childs life.

[cocacolapanda]

I say while pregnant it might be more harm to you to even be around them.  You can't not talk about the pregnancy with family, and when it comes up and there so negative that puts a lot of un-necessary stress on you.  If I was in that situation I would basically tell them if they can't be happy for us then let us know when there ready to meet there grandchild.

And yes, what does your other half say?  Maybe he should try talking to his parents and see if he can get them to chill out?  Are they scared that there too young to be grandparents?

[Tracy21]

i agree with smjmekg if they can't except your decision then i wouldn't let them see the baby at the end of the day you don't need people like that telling you to kill your baby no way would i speak to her again thats just my feelings on the matter
i hope everything works out for you
good luck
xx

[Cassandrajane]

What is your other half saying about this? And have they ever had a problem with you before? Thats not right, you need to sit them down and say, I am having this baby, if you dont like it, then you will have NOTHING to do with it.. and if my baby asks why does she/he not see Granny and Grampy. You will tell him/her the truth and say well Granny and Grampy didnt want mummy to have you.. (Only when its older)
They either like it or lump it.

x

[smjmekg]

Sounds like baby won't be meeting grandparents to me. I'd tell them to either be happy with your decisions, or never meet the baby. But that's just how I'd be.