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[dalty81]

I had my 12 week scan on weds and was told the baby had an increased nt of 4.7mm they then took blood and told me I had a 1 in 5 chance of having a baby with ds or t13 t18 they want us to have an amnio how do u cope with all this info, i,m gutted please help if u have gone thru the same thing

[crstl11]

Oh I understand but I also look at how can u not give the baby a chance to live. Only God knows how that baby will turn out and I can't chance killing a baby just because of what tests say u know.

[dalty81]

It,s such a hard thing to be going thru it,s not just ds to think about their r so many others that r not life compatable how can u watch ure baby suffer till it dies how

[crstl11]

I had the blood wrk done and mine was fine...but I decided with my first that I would go no further than the test no amino or nothing because it doesn't matter how they turn out I would keep my baby and love it the same. Don't let those tests worry u just pray and everything will be fine and turn out how its meant to be.

[Jmarlos]

I don't usually comment or post but I feel compelled to, as I just went through this myself and am currently sitting with my beautiful healthy baby boy who is 12 weeks old  I went in for my scan at 12 weeks as well and had the same exact reading of 4.7. My dr told me I had a 1 in 4 chance something was not ok. I did the CVS right then and there. I actually had to get it done twice. Once through cervix and once through abdomen. Waiting for results was hard but came back with out any chromosomal abnormalities. Then they continue to scare  you and say well it's the heart but you can't do an echo until 22 weeks. And then it could be skeletal issues. I day by day decided I'm going to give this boy a chance to prove he's ok an we slowly jumped every hurdle and he's just perfect. Sometimes these screening tests give us more info than we bargained for. I was so nervous that something was wrong but in the end the test was wrong! Feel free to message me if you want more info or just want to talk about the stress it creates. I have a 3 1-2 yr old son as well and know how the thought of bringing a child with disabilities home would  effect them as well.

[Mamabays]

It could impact him in a positive way.

[dalty81]

Please don,t think i,m a bad person for saying this but i,m not sure how I would cope with a child with ds I have a 4 year old son how would this impacted his life i,m so confussed

[baby2_on_the_way]

My friend had been told with her last 3 children that they would have t18, and that her first had brain problems, her 2nd had heart problems, and her 3rd had both. All of her children street 100% healthy and advanced for their ages. Good luck dear. I hope they are wrong about your baby like they have been about hers. If not join help groups, and research the condition so you are better prepared. You will love your baby the same no matter what.