Love making* Is it too little?

[ammanda]

I know this is random but its something thats been on my mind.  Sorry if its TMI!!  Okay so I was one that suffered with horrible morning sickness everyday, all day for 2 months straight.  So me and hubby never really got intamate with each other.  Which made him frustrated and act out in wierd ways.  But I didnt let it get to me cause I didnt care, I was sick and I didnt want to do it and thats all there was to it. lol.. So then to try and make the mood better I told him once I got into the second trimester then it would be better. cause thats what I heard.  But again I wasnt sick I just didnt feel like doing it. Sex sounded so horrible to me.  So it made things on our relationship alot harder.  Now I am 34 weeks and still cant get myself to have sex with him.  But now its not just the way it sounds, I think I have dropped.  Cause my bladder always feels so full even when I literally just went to the bathroom 2 minutes prior. and Ill be sitting there doing nothing and my baby will move, and it sends a shock of pressure into my vagina, its so wierd.  So Im not saying we havnt had sex at all during this pregnancy, but its been very very very limitated, if I had to quess id say about 10 or 12 times in the past 8 and half months.   We tried last night,  and the whole time i wasnt in pain, just soo much pressure down there that it was unbearable. is that normal?  And someone mentioned to him about all the sex he gets to have when im full term to try and start labor, so now hes all excited about that. But I cant see myself doing it, especaily if the way im feeling now is only gonna get worse.  The main thing that bothers me is when we do do it, or I do other things for him, after words he saids "thank you" to me, like im a prostitute or something. I dont know maybe im over reacting but it just bothers me that he says thank you to me after words.. is that wierd to anyone else? Or is it just me?  Is everything Im feeling and going through normal.. And this is my first pregnancy if that makes a difference.

thank you in advance
Ammanda

Baby dust to all that are TTC!!!!
and Happy pregnancy to all that are pregnant!!!!

[ammanda]

thank you girls so much!!! and no this is his second child but the other was from a previous relationship, he passed away, But im not quit sure how there sex life was when she was pregnant.   but yea only 6 weeks left i know i cant wait.

[Victoria01]

First, what you are feeling is very normal! Being uncomfortable definitely kills the mood for most pregnant women. I am going to assume that this is hubby's first baby too, so he probably doesn't understand how pregnancy can effect how a woman feels, let alone all those nasty hormones that are floating around. Believe me, sex is so far from my mind and has been for awhile. I've been having all day sickness since the beginning and now that I am so close to my due date I am in so much pain that just the thought of sex is the furthest thing from my mind.

I can understand how you feel about the 'thank you', I think it would bother me a little too, but maybe he feels that you are doing it just for him (and not because you really want to) and it's the only way he can express that. (Just playing devil's advocate :))

I would try and talk to him and maybe you can come up with other ways to be intimate that will make you both feel good. I've been very lucky with DH because he seems to understand since we've done this before, but I do know that it does bother him a little, though he doesn't act like it.

As I said, what you are feeling is VERY normal! and you only have 6 weeks left :)

[tobbeyj]

Hey hun, you are soooo not alone. My hubby and I have DTD much less than you have to be honest. We had previous MC's and were not permitted in first tri, then along came the second tri and I was sooo not in the mood, and here I am 5 days away from 40 weeks and I think I can count on one hand how much we have done it. I am sooo not in the mood. This does not mean however that hubby is not taken care of in other ways, because I do understand the guy has needs but just luck for him its less work for him. I hope to gain my wanting to do it again after baby arrives...and I want to speed up this labour thing - since nothing is happening and im 5 days away but honestly sex is just not comfortable for me right now. Hope this helps. Good luck!