Mommys with other kids...

[baby2_on_the_way]

All day I have been stressing about the transition from one kid to two. My daughter is the only grandbaby, the only niece, the only little kids in the whole family. I was the first to have a baby in twelve years in my family, so she is the apple in everyone's eyes, and every one is so excited that we are now having a boy to add to the clan, I worry that she will feel attention deprived. I know that nobody would ignore her or anything but its a given that she will have to share some of her undivided attention with her baby brother. Its not that I don't want my baby boy to come, but with the time counting down to his arrival i'm so fearful of her feelings getting hurt. How did/will you cope with this? I feel guilty for feeling this way, and feel guilty for taking the attention off of her. :-(  these hormones may just turn me into a crazy lady

[lisabp]

I felt the same with my second as there is a 5 year gap but I sat my family down and had a talk about my worrys I even had a talk with my eldest saying mommy will be a little busy with the baby some times but it doesn't mean I don't love her no more but baby's need a bit more attention when there so little an I asked if she would like to help me look after her which she did and I think that helped her an now I'm doin the same thing with my youngest she's a real mommy's girl an she's only one so it ain't quiet as easy has she don't really under stand yet but I'll get her to help out as much as she can I hope that helps good luck

[tshc]

It depends on her age. All little kids gonna get jealous. I think keep telling her how she's gonna be a big sister and gonna be mommy's helper and other compliments to include her with the baby. Kids love that. I let my son go to the ultrasounds with me. And at the baby shower I am gonna get him a big brother t shirt and other things to show I am gonna love him the same. Like you, he's been the first grandson for so long just to have another sibling and family gonna be a little difficult.

[pmaried]

I good way i think would be to make her feel as included as possible.. By having her help out with bathtime, picking out little outfits for him, grabbing a diaper, powder, etc.. people and even small children feel good most of the time knowing that they are needed & it will hopefully make her feel good to help take care of her little brother. She will probably be a little jealous but if so try to have a special activity that is reserved just for you two..

[baby2_on_the_way]

thanks girls, we are preparing her for it by telling her she will have to show her baby brother grammy's house or she will have to teach him how to play hungry hippos with us and she seems ok with it, I just cant help but worry worry worry about her feelings. she is my everything and I guess I don't want her to feel any hurt at all. I hope it goes as smoothly as your transitions with your second children :)

[KTowne]

I just had my baby 4 days ago and let me tell you the transition is SO much easier than you're thinking it will be, this was one of my biggest fears and I've found it to be so natural and easy, Your daughter is going to get a ton of attention just because everyone knows she especially needsit right now, you'll be fine!! :)

[carmarie25]

I wasbin the same situation my daughter was the first and spoiled rotten by my aunts my parents everyone!! So when i got pregnant with my second daughter i was worried as well because my oldest was still he only grand baby it turned out for me that my oldest was still the apple of everyones eye she still got insane attention and till this day is the special little girl!! I find now that my girls are 6 and 4 the jealously happens now my oldest is jealous that shes not the only one to go on shopping trips with grandma or that her sister goes wih her to grandmas house my oldest always wants time alone wih my mom and her little sister not be there so my mom will alternate a day on the weekend her and my aunt will take my oldest out on a saturday and then take my youngest out the following saturday so they both know there special and they noth have there one on one time!!

[nrl_1]

Tell all your family that it is very important for her to be included at all times expecially when little brother comes.they will understand the concern

[Seawork]

Just make sure you schedule one on one time with her. Also make sure the people she sees as the most important, like her grandparents or aunts, dad ect also get one on one time with her. Yes it is important to have family time but she'll still be able to feel special with the one on one time.