Not ready

[ixxxiimmx]

My boyfriends mother has ruined my happiness in my whole pregnancy. She has harassed me constantly about doing things that would make it easier for her son financially.. He hasn't paid for anything else except for my dr bill which is only 99.00 a month.. She is constantly telling me I need to get welfare and wic and I'm not judging but I am financially stable enough where I don't need to get welfare. She calls my parents to talk about where my son is going to be staying know he's born like she has an say in what I am doing. I've told my boyfriend to tell her to stop, he won't. He thinks in crazy for making him do something like that. My moms told her to stop and she won't and I've even told her to stop. The most embarrassing thing is my boyfriend is 21 years old! I'm 20.. My parents are upset that his mother keeps contacting them regarding my pregnancy. It's making me dread the day he is born which makes me beyond sad. Do any of you ladies have this problem and what did you do to stop it? Please help, I'm due in October and I just want to be happy.

[xxXxshannon23xx]

Block her number and tell your boyfriend that you Dont care if he thinks your crazy or over reacting you don't like it and feel uncomfortable with it and either he needs to say something or you will and it'll probably be nicer coming from him. Luckily I don't have that problem my fiancés mom only cares like once a month or when I pay something on Facebook and tag him other than that we don't hear from her

[MomnaBree97]

Agreed text time she tells you something simply say "it's my baby and my desicion I'd appreciate if you stopped tells ne what to do with MY child" she might say that it's her son's baby to but if your boyfriend isn't telling her anything than you can say that he's o your side with your desicions.
I've seen grandparents that literally take the baby and keep em for days as "sleep overs" but their just crossing the line. Tell her she's stepping on your toes as a parent and she will not be allowed over to see the baby until she understand she's not the mom . That's exactly what I would do because I can't stand when someone tries to tell me how to parent !!

[KeziaBrightsea]

Tell her one last time. Explain to her what he is all paying for and that you feel no need for welfare. I personally like WIC for the nurse visits and classes but it's not for everyone so that's okay too. If she still harasses you, ignore her. Just don't answer her calls and tell your parents to do the same. Tell your boyfriend that he is the only one who can talk to her from now on because you are done. You do not need the extra stress. My boyfriend's mom was a lot like that. Always putting pressure on me to schedule things around her and getting on me if she felt her son was doing too much. But luckily my boyfriend talked to her and now she's so much better to deal with. Just stay strong and keep your chin up. Don't let her ruin this blessing!

[AnnieBrooke]

If your parents have a phone that shows the number of the caller (they are not costly to buy, like eighty bucks for a nice set) they should simply stop answering the phone when she calls.

[Jules_mommy]

You need to tell her that you like that she'd like to be involved but she needs to let you and your boyfriend handle things yourself. I would tell your parents to ignore her calls. Talk to your boyfriend first and tell him if he doesn't feel comfortable telling her then you will. Just make sure before you talk to her you take a deep breath and be as calm as possible. She probably doesn't even realize how overwhelming she's being and is probably just trying to be helpful. As for welfare and wic, I would just tell her that you don't want to be on welfare because you make enough (I'm pretty sure you have to be making next to nothing to even qualify for it but I'm not sure) and tell her you don't need help from wic (if you plan on using formula then you may want to look into it since formula costs so much but ultimately it's YOUR decision). Good luck :)

[DesireeBocanegra]

She sounds crazy. I'm sorry about that. Well I know.its extreme but why not change there number so she can't contact them and stop contact with her or limit it until the baby is born

[ladytay19]

Yea cut her off till she understand that she's over stepping her boundaries

[LovingMyKidsss]

shell stop once the baby is born. babies bring happiness to most . don't stress & ignore her.

[Kayy19]

Don't answer anymore of her calls.

[redmama1992]

Ignore her till she gets the picture she is not pappy and the father is grown to do what he need to do or be put on child support