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Anybody still have friends?
Ever since i found out I was pregnant and quit smoking pot I literally have no friends. The only person I talk to is my boyfriend and people from work. Everyone that I used to be so cool with doesn't have time for me. I guess I'm just boring. I'm not upset about it or anything but I feel like I'm goina be a complete ***** when my daughters born and all my "friends" wanna come around again
its sad to say but I really dont think it has anything to do with you really.. the reason you have those friends is becuase of your mutual love for ganja. think about it, have you really had any serious conversations about life, future plans, likes dislikes, feelings WITHOUT being high and have have u ever had any of those friends remember anything u said about any personal feelings of view points? its Not likely.. I know becuase one of my childhood friends is like this. we.grew up together on the same neighborhood and went to the same schools.since.7 im 23 now. he started smoking a lot of pot like everyday sometimes all day.long.. and I smoked with him on ocassion along with other friends of ours and from time to time he'd invite me.over.to.smoke and id go and we would hve our "high" conversations and eat together.. then I got pregnant.. .. and we remained friends.via facebook..but he seldom calls, never comes over doesnt text hardley Facebooks only.time I see.him.really.is in traffic.. its sad but true.. this was.my.chinildhood best friend.growing up and all throughout HS. your.friends priorities are to smoke and.get high.as they can as often.as they.can.. its not that they dont care about you, but its not.that they really.care.either.. there.not going to come around and see your baby.either when its born. Especially if they are devoted pot.smokers.. They live to get high and.stay tranced.. it really isn't anything personal twords you really, ita juat the nature of.pot smokers.
when I quit smoking, the amount I hung out with my friends definitely decreased. but I really don't feel hurt by it, sometimes I get bored but I realize I just need to find friends that are in the same stage as life as me and ive found a lot of resources for parenting groups for after baby is born so im excited about that. I really dont blame my friends, I dont expect them to change what their doing just because im changing my life, its how things go. I still care about them and they do for me, they hit me up to see how im doing sometimes. but their off doing stuff that I dont want to be doing or cant do, so its not their fault. and.i ujderstand that babies,.pregnancy and parenting are boring topics after a while to people who dont have kids. try not to be hard on your friends and realize your moving onto an amazing part of life that they dont understand yet. maybe youll reunite when they enter parenthood :) and look for community parenting support groups, if you google the parenting hotline and call it I believe they can connect you with resources in your community :)
ive been dealing with the same bs... i mean i was never a heavy smoker but my friends were n they would all come over n chill my " bestfriend/godmother of my daughter" hasnt been around since the day my little girl was born its bull i mean normallh i dnt care but there are times when i just want someone to talk to besides the hubby and im not tryin to put all my personal info at wrk...
I went through the exact same thing. But towards the end of my pregnancy I had a very old friend get in touch with me which helped me some. You really find out the real friends. Alot of people who don't have kids of their own will blow you off and simply don't understand. Its bullcrap but I feel like its their loss. I've made a big step in my life and don't need anyone in my life who doesn't support that, and neither do you. (:
My "best friend" accused me of getting pregnant for attention. I have been married for almost 4 years and the hubby and I have always wanted a family so explain to me what I did wrong. I think some people are jealous that when we get pregnant we are starting a new chapter in life and they don't know how they fit in. BTW I don't talk to my "best friend" anymore. I don't want people like her around my baby so until she can grow up she won't be involved.
There is no such thing as a pot free chill session with them! They'll get real high then wanna eat all my food lol. Today it just pissed me off cause they have pictures of them on Instagram going tiki tubing and I really been wanting to go but I guess that ain't happening lol
I'm in the same situation! When I got pregnant everyone dropped at once. It makes me sad sometimes but then I just say to myself if they dont wanna be my friend while I can't do fun things then I don't wanna be there friend anyways. True friends enjoy being around you no matter what!
Pregnancy brings out who "cares" and who doesn't. Sounds like its time to weed (no pun intended) people out : ) On to the next chapter.
I had to ***** at my brother and call him out, because I too smoked pot before pregnancy and he would come around often (moocher), and then after I quit, he wasn't around nearly as much, and when he would stop by is was VERY brief. So I told him to kick rocks if he cant stand by his big sister, even if its just a phone call to see if all is well.
I had to ***** at my brother and call him out, because I too smoked pot before pregnancy and he would come around often (moocher), and then after I quit, he wasn't around nearly as much, and when he would stop by is was VERY brief. So I told him to kick rocks if he cant stand by his big sister, even if its just a phone call to see if all is well.
Oh i see well u should invite them over for a pot free chill session or something(: lol
Same here.. I know i dont need them if they can't make time for me even if I'm tired and boring. All i have is my mom and my boyfriend lol. My so called "bestfriend" doesn't even come around anymore cuz i can't go out partying anymore. But oh well her loss. The way i see it is my baby is more important then anyone else and the whole world could abandon me, but as long as i have my kiddos that's all ill ever need to be happy. There is alot of support on this site and id rather talk to other pregos anyway as we have much in common. :)
I'm 32 weeks. I don't think they have a problem with me per say but I'm the only on with my own place so it'd used to be the spot for everyone to smoke and chill but I cut that out and now no ones comes around at all
Well all i can say is they weren't true friends becuz.if they were they would still be here for u. U will find real ppl that will enlightened your life n be there for u.
Well if they don't want to talk to you anymore because your sober and doing the right thing for your BABY then i doubt they were very good friends at all. i stopped smoking whenn i found out i was pregnant too & the few people i associated myself with are still around & supporting my decision.how many weeks are you?
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