Pregnancy & emotions

[amie2930]

My.boyfriend and I are having a little boy. I'm due may 10th, yaaay soon. :)
But heres the thing.... he has a daughter already that I really do like and care about. But this sunday my boyfriend is meeting his other daughter for the first time... she'll be one I think or two. Not sure. All I know is her name is Mia and she isnt healthy. Since I've been pregnant ive had such mixed emotions. I love that he wants to finally be in her life. But, now I have to deal with two different baby mommas?? I will do it for him. But idk how to re act. And I do not want to meet Mia for along time. I know that'll be our sons sister & all but still..... I'm dreading Sunday. I'm trying to make plans to entertain myself Sunday because my minds going crazy over this. I feel like he will favorite one kid over the other, and that will bother me. Its not fair to the kids ones the favourite. I told him once you get in mias life stay there. Don't walk out on this little girl. How would you girls feel? I feel like after my pregnancy is over I'll feel better. Im.anxious and not sure how to feel about all this.. :( I need advice

[diabetusbiscuit]

Im in a smiliar boat here, just without that extra little girl. My husband only has one daughter but yeah the drama that her mom has put me through is difficult to put up with but worth it for him and Avery. Im not sure how close you are to the daughter that youve met, or how your relationship with her mom is but (my opinion) you two are about to start your own family and those 2 little girls are his, so you need to accept them as if they were yours. Yeah, they wont call you mommy and you wont see them as often as you will your own little one but if you make the effort to be a family they will return that. Better to be introduced when theyre young so its not so much a 'whos this woman replacing mom?' vibe. Best to nourish the stepmom relationship when theyre little so youll have more leeway in the future.
Hope this helps, stay strong, dont think i could handle a second babymama, but as long as you feel hes worth it, it will be :)

[diabetusbiscuit]

Im in a smiliar boat here, just without that extra little girl. My husband only has one daughter but yeah the drama that her mom has put me through is difficult to put up with but worth it for him and Avery. Im not sure how close you are to the daughter that youve met, or how your relationship with her mom is but (my opinion) you two are about to start your own family and those 2 little girls are his, so you need to accept them as if they were yours. Yeah, they wont call you mommy and you wont see them as often as you will your own little one but if you make the effort to be a family they will return that. Better to be introduced when theyre young so its not so much a 'whos this woman replacing mom?' vibe. Best to nourish the stepmom relationship when theyre little so youll have more leeway in the future.
Hope this helps, stay strong, dont think i could handle a second babymama, but as long as you feel hes worth it, it will be :)

[householder19]

I don't have that much advise because I'm in a completely different boat as you. This will be mine and my husbands first baby.   But before I got with my husband I was with a guy that had a baby girl, she was only like a month old. I encouraged him to go see her! He acted like he didn't want to but I kind of made him because I never had my dad in my life and I know how much it  s u c k s   to have a dad that don't want anything to do with you. Anyways, but I kind of regretted it because one night he went over there and stayed the night with his ex and they ended up sleeping together.  He didn't answer his phone all night and then told me the next day that they didn't have sex they just slept next to eachother with the baby in between them, but I didn't believe him.. So yea that relationship ended real quick! Haha.. an not long after that I got with my now husband and I couldn't be more happy! :)).  So Whatever happens with your situation just keep in mind everything happens for a reason! :) hope all goes well!!  An good luck hun! :))